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Ok so I have a problem. I cant ever get the guy i like. I'm so nice to them, they seem to like me and nothing happens. Although I might add I'm pretty old school I try to show the guy I like him and wait for Him to ask me out. wait for him to make the move but they don't! I gave this one dude a cupcake ! Am I being too nice ? What's going on?
You know, this is something that irritates the crap out of me.
You have women that sit there and complain when people complain about being put in the friendzone that say "Well you done this, you done that, you obviously showed interest", and to the women doing those nice things, in their mind they were only being nice.
Then you get women that sit there and say "What the hell, I done all these nice things (that so many complain about by saying it does not mean she is interested in you sexually), and that men are stupid for not accepting these "subtle" hints that you complain are just you being "nice" when a guy that you have done it to is one you are not interested in.
This is not a case of "men are too dumb to understand hints", this is a case of "Men no longer accept kindness as romantic interest", and this is because so many women have complained when men assume the girl likes them and were leading them on for those nice actions that were the same, however not intended for the same outcome.
Women, understand this. Being nice does not mean you are showing interest. We should not have to assume you like us just for being a kind human being and smiling at someone, especially when you complain when people assume you mean that in a hitting on manner, yet say you were just being kind.
You cannot sit there and say men are dumb for women saying "Oh, being nice means I am interested in you", while the other half say "Just because I am nice to you does not mean I am interested in you".
Want a hint, women? Initiate. Stop trying to think guys should have to do all of the initiating, risking the rejection, because guys are less willing nowadays, and you cannot complain about that given that you are exactly the same.
If guys shouldn't think you belong in the kitchen (rightfully so), then you shouldn't expect men to do all the initiating, because both are gender roles, and guys don't want to risk rejection anymore.
I'm partially there with you, like I believe I'm a nice person, yet it doesn't seem like girls really like me, beyond friendship. I think that when it comes to affection and wanting something more then it sounds like your problem is that you're being a good friend. And when it comes to being a good friend, nothing wrong with that, but you shouldn't expect to seen as anything differently, I'm speaking from experience. Giving someone a cupcake doesn't really seem like a gesture to say "I like you" well beyond friendship, it just means that you're a cool friend. Guys are blunt and we can't really take hints. I should say that some guys do interpret kindness with infatuation; however, it's usually the guys that you don't like or feel the same about that will probably like you. Honestly though getting the person that you like is usually pretty tough. You sound nice, but sometimes being nice could make it tough for guys to see you as more than a friend. Maybe I'm wrong, I'm speaking from my own experiences with girls since I have felt the same way as you so I feel like I can empathize with you. If you're waiting though for a guy to make the move well then honestly you might be waiting for awhile, on that I could be wrong. But I feel that waiting for a person to make the move isn't such a good idea because chances are that they're wishing the same about you, so in the end you have two people scared to make the move and neither will know how the other feels. Honestly I say just try to make a move, I mean I think most guys will be flattered if a girl asked them out. Besides you sound like a great girl, so whatever guy has his hand in yours, well that's a lucky fellow.
Honestly, instead of giving out cupcakes and just lightly flirting, try telling guys you like that you like them. Can you ever tell when a guy likes you vs when he's just being nice? Like ItDuz said, being nice is a human thing. It seems that politeness is so endangered now that it is mistaken with flirtation. Sad, really. Just tell them how you feel, and if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be. By the sounds of it, you're probably still young. You have many chances for guys to like you, to ask you out. You'll learn someday that being straightforward is better than hinting.
It's not that men dislike shy, quiet types of girl, they actually do like them a lot. They just don't notice them because there are plenty of women who do more to grab their attention.
Try harder to get their attention and let them know you're interested. That doesn't mean you have to act like a skank either. Just market yourself to your target audience, without changing yourself. If you are interested in a guy, ask him out on a casual date.
You need to be a little more forward. Wear cute outfits, twirl your hair, talk about your thong panties, etc.
You gotta tell him, it's how people get things done these days. Being nice just means you're nice, it says nothing about you wanting to mate.
Don't be soooooooo nice..... MOst guys love being challenged and when you act being so nice they think they already won the game and move on...
Don't rush into it. The right guy will come 2 u 4whom u really r n will appreciate what u offer. Nohing wrong in being old school
i have never been attracted ( sexually) to a girl who's nice or "cute" or (...insert any moral aspect here...).
for a gf yea i'd take u. ( most guys nowadays seem to not want this)
for some hot action no.
You should be with me. I am an aggressive male. Maybe not, assertive is more appropriate term to use.