Is it normal that guy feign their interest in a girl they are attracte

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As the title suggests: Is it normal that guys fake interest in Girls they just wanna sleep with until they get it?

I´ve been dwelling for so long why i haven´t been able to attract a girl, im 20 and never done shit with Girls which is really frustrating. For years i´ve been working on my personality and fixing my flaws so i can be a better man and maybe increase the chance for attracting Girls. I´ve Heard from some that i am a decent good looking guy. Yet i´ve for some reason i feel that i continously drive these Girls away, even if they are first attracted to me they seem to get bored quickly.

I´ve been anxious for so long about why i haven´t succeeded for anything. Until i overheard a conversation with a guy i know, who talk with a girl. She would just gag and talk alot and he just sat there and listened like he really was interested. After their conversation ended, i walked to him and asked: Honestly now, are you really fascinated by this girl AT ALL? He said: No not really, she is just hot and i want her in bed.

That was when it really made sense to me, all these guys at my age fake their interest on the girl they are attracted to in their dates so they can seem genuienly interested and charming, til the Girls like them and have sex with them.

I´ve never been able to do it, im a horrible lier and i just cant fake my interest in a woman no matter how much i want to sleep with her, truth of the matter is they bore me to Death ( i probably bore them to, it´s a two way street ). I´ve comed to realize that all these guys are getting laid, are most of the time being really fake. Is it really normal or am i just generalizing? Any tips? Cause after this realization i Went banans earlier today that i haven´t realized it earlier :S

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    I don't get why you are making an issue out of this? You go on like it is the worst thing to be a 20 year old virgin and then about guys who pull whack 'smooth moves' to get laid.

    Why don't you just focus on making a lasting friendship with a girl first? Girls make good friends.

    And then you will stop stressing so much about your lack of experience.

    I got my first kiss on the age of 22. The girl's name was Svetlana and we didn't even understand each other. She being Russian and me being Afrikaans.

    My point being: just let go and let life happen. You stress too much.

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      Well i´ve not had good experiences with Girls, i find that they are good listeners (sometimes) but they tend to gossip more, so telling a secret to a girl has from my experience ( i dont speak for everybody of course!) been a bad idea. And with me making it a big deal, well i Think for me it is. Some people have greater needs than others, i Think im one of those people. :/

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      • pastor_of_muppets
        9 years ago

        It's not a need though.. it's an urge.

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        • Sam944
          9 years ago

          Maybe you are right. But it doesn´t change the fact that i go on everyday thinking when my luck is gonna change, cuz it´s been driving me nuts ever since i was like 14.

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          • TareBear20
            9 years ago

            Fleshlight.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    It is annoying when you find someone so physically attractive but that mental compatibility just isn't there. I have had these feelings but I just gave up once I found that in the long-term, this person would not be able to agree with or satisfy me emotionally. The best thing is to find someone you can see yourself with long-term and still get the benefits.

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    • TareBear20
      9 years ago

      Haven't we all? Honestly, a lot of people tend to act a lot more mentally inept than they really are. It's frustratIng and I don't understand why I can barely hold a conversation with a lot of people. :/

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Players and pickup artists are selfish jerks who treat women as objects then use them and throw them away. Don't be a selfish jerk. Be someone better, be genuine, be yourself!
    :-)

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    I don't lead anyone on. I tell them where to go and how to get there. I'm not a guy or anything, but my advice to you, is to stick to the way you are. Why would you ever want to change your unique qualities for someone else? Wouldn't you rather have someone who will love you for who you are and not what they want you to be? Try to put yourself out there and be more social, but never try to change who you are for anyone, unless it is for yourself. Also, never settle for anything less than what you are looking for when it comes to relationships. I wasted about 6 or so years on someone I could barely tolerate .. Lesson learned!

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Unfortunately, u don't have to be a genuinely good guy to attract women. And attracting them and keeping them are two very different things involving two different approaches. Then again, every woman is different... Every situation and relationship requires a different touch. Where one girl might like being. Talked down to and controlled, another might as well, but for two different reasons. One has daddy issues, and the other is just really submissive. And I use these as examples because it's usually these types of girls that go from douche bag to douche bag expecting different results from the same formula.

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      Wow, it feels hopeless just by Reading this. I mean, im not a pushover. If i feel a girl has done or said something wrong i will damn well say it. But im not a guy who Controls my girl or treath her badly, unless she deserves it. Im a nice guy, but not " mr nice guy " type either. I have my own shit to do and have Little time to put in Girls, does that make me a douche then? haha!

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Are you saying no girls has ever interested you personality wise your whole life? Thats strange...hmm

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      Yeah, that´s what im saying.

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  • sandraasiilva
    9 years ago

    Answering your question: it's normal, but wrong. Many guys do that, but not all.
    And don't worry, a girl will appear shortly.

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      That´s the thing, i just Think it is wrong to give a girl fake hopes just to get laid with her. I´ve seen how that tears them apart and later on in Life mold their unstable personality, i dont wanna contribute to that. But at the same time i need to get it done.

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      • sandraasiilva
        9 years ago

        Don't be like these guys. You seem to be too worried about get laid and you don't need to. If you want you can flirt with some girls, but don't give them to understand something you don't feel. I mean, don't go like saying you love them just to take a step forward. Some girls may be in order to do it without serious feelings or compromise, just like you. Try to find a girl that are in the same wave as you. But in my opinion you shouldn't worry so much about it, it's not like you had a time limit to do that, so...
        Things will happen naturally, you'll see :)

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        • Sam944
          9 years ago

          I am just overly excited because it really seems to be such apleasant thing to do, and yeah its a real urge. I kinda want a sex buddy like a Child wants a gift from santa really badly. I dont know why it is like this, but it is really wearing me down.

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          • sandraasiilva
            9 years ago

            As I said, try to find some beautiful girl that is on the same boat as you, without compromise. is the best advice I can give you if you don't wanna wait for the right girl.
            Can I ask you how old are you? If you don't mind, of course. i'm just curious.

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