Is it normal that girls avoid eye contact with me?

All seduction gurus make it sound as if most men are too scared to look a beautiful girl in the eyes but although I'm shy usually and afraid of approaching girls I never had a problem looking girls in the eyes but I have a feeling that it's mostly girls who never look me in the eyes, whether it's the fast-food employee or a girl I cross in the street, they ALWAYS look away very fast. Is it normal?

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Based on 77 votes (45 yes)
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Comments ( 22 )
  • Shackleford96

    Simple, just stop giving off that "Yeah, I'd rape that..." look.

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  • JaysonExplosion

    It depends. how ugly are you?

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  • BearGrylls

    Here's some pointers to make girls not want to look away from you:

    1. Wear expensive clothes.
    2. Wear expensive shoes.
    3. Drive an expensive car.
    4. Wear expensive jewellery.
    5. Have money visibly sticking out of your pocket.

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    • Captain_Kegstand

      You sir, must get laid constantly!

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  • Corleone

    In what way do you look at them? In a friendly way, or in the "I CAN SEE YOUR MIND" kind of way?

    Don't bother too much with those 'seduction gurus'. As soon as someone starts calling himself a 'guru', you know he's got a screw loose.

    In my opinion, there's only one thing that really works when flirting with someone. Be yourself. Not the nervous or shy version of yourself, of course. Be the best version of yourself. Be the kind of person you'd like to hang out with. Someone who's confident about who he is.

    But don't go around with that 'seduction guru' and 'negging'* crap I've heard so much about. Lowering women's self esteem so they'll get less picky isn't just childish. It's evil.

    *To those who don't know negging: it's basically insulting girls to get them to like you. You know, because assholes need love too.

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  • Lolada

    Appearance is all these days,i know,i fucking hate it too,but that's how the world works,cheer up pal.
    Maybe they just shy,or not very sociable.

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  • When a chick thinks im giving her a rapey look i always lol to myself thinking "Oh please don't flatter yourself, i would be raping someone much hotter than you"

    Oh and dude it might just be your gaze, some guys (myself included) have that thousand yard stare thing. Some people can't help it.

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  • pondford

    Yeah, what Anime7 said. They could be shy. Or they just don't want to socialise. Or you're giving them a creeper look without meaning to. Though it could also be culture. In some cultures, it's rude and a sign of disrespect for a female to look a male in the eye. I think that's bullshit and should be scrapped. This is the 21st century! But whatever. That's just my opinion. lawl.

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    • Francophile22

      But on the other hand, if you are trying to woo a Japanese-born woman, if they lower their eyes that is a better sign than a totally aggressive look.

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  • Anime7

    Perhaps it is them who are shy and you who portrays confidence.

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  • Nokiot9

    Lol what the fuck is a seduction guru? Where do I sign?

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  • tellmeimwrong

    Must have big eyes. I'm lucky every girl says my almond eyes are gorgeous I've even had some seriously sexy women look into my eyes for a few seconds not saying I'm hot but I'm very fortunate in the eye department

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  • DieselEstate

    Oh dear, Bear Grylls.

    mi·sog·y·ny - /mə
    ˈsäjənē/
    Noun:
    1. The hatred of women
    by men.

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  • SittingintheCorner

    I (a female heh) don't usually look people straight in the eyes unless I know them. It's just...awkward, especially if I didn't mean for them to catch me looking or I didn't know I was looking at them in the first place (like I zoned out or my eyes settled on them accidentally.) I know quite a few girls who do this as well.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    If you are scared or intimidated when you look at them the tension will show in your face making you look kind of "rapey". Relax, chill, and be yourself, girls love confidence and they will be drawn to you!

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  • It depends upon how intimidating a stare you have, and also what you look like, specifically your face. You can read into the women's mind by how she looks away and her body language. Plus if you catch her staring again there is strong reason to believe she likes what she is looking at.

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  • didtav

    that's because you are ugly

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  • Ldizzy1234

    They could be shy. I usually do that with the guys I find attractive. And thats because I'm a little insecure, and also worried that if I stare too long, or if they catch me staring too long, they'd think I'm being rude or I'm a weirdo or something.

    Don't listen to these people that say you're unattractive. Thats just stupid. They don't know what you look like and they have no idea how you're looking at them. You could just be glancing, whatever. Some girls are just shy.

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    • Francophile22

      This. recently I went to Whole Foods to shop, and it was very crowded - there must have been about 8 people/carts in front of me and 5-6 behind (and all the lines were very long, too).

      About me:
      I am not normally shy but if a woman really strikes me, then sometimes I can kind of drop my eye contact down to a minimum, partially out of fear that she will think I'm staring, party to hide my feelings so she won't feel on the spot, and partly out of fear.

      Well with this woman cashier, every person before me and after me of both sexes, young and old (I watched in a non-creeper fashion) got good eye contact from her, but when it was my turn she could NOT look at me, and I've been told I am a solid 7 or perhaps a little higher in the looks department, so it can't be that, and I have music students and we all get along famously, so it's not my style/personality either. I got the sense she was attracted to me too, and was similarly afraid. In fact, this is my new signal that is more reliable than a woman being friendly (which usually means nothing).

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  • Geneva5

    You are ugly and come across as being a bit rapey - maybe just stay home from now on.

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  • Somehow I knew the word creep would come up. So it means I'm unattractive :-(
    Girls call unattractive men's stares creepy and handsome men well the girls themselves would ogle them.

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    • EdWall234

      Everyone can be good looking, some just have to put more effort in than others. It helps to be groomed (clear face and all), relatively fit and not smelling like a dog's arse. Judging from the fact you turned to a 'seduction guru' you must see them as possible conquest...don't.

      I would recommend not looking a complete stranger in the eyes for a long time, UNLESS you're actually talking to them, otherwise it is just scary.

      Lastly, if you keep drowning in your own doom and gloom, you won't get anywhere.

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