Is it normal that everytime my boyfriend goes out i'm sick with worry?

That's pathetic. Instead of worrying all day, go out with you're friends and have a good time. There is no relationship without trust. You'll feel a lot better about the situation, if you go out as well.

I'm the exact same way, if that makes you feel any better. And I also dated the best friend first (who now hates me) too. His best friend was a total jerk and is always wanting to pick up girls, sleep with randoms, etc. And it drives him insane that my boyfriend can't or won't participate in it. I hate hate hate when he hangs out with him without me. We live together now and further away from his friends, so I don't run into this as often any more. I also make a fuss that I want him to come home at night, so when he does go out with his friends he typically cant drink (we live too far for a cab). I know it sucks being the insecure, controlling girlfriend. But in my experience, being the cool one that pretends she doesn't care when some stripper is shoving her tits in his face doesn't really get you anywhere either. Give them an inch, they take a mile.

Stop being so dependent. It'll only drive him further away.

It's not that i dont trust him because i do its that i dont trust myself being good enough , its more that he mig meet someone (not doing anything with them) and they make him realise he could do better... Or something bad happens to him, or his best mate, my ex boyfriend convinces him to get rid of me. I know how ridiculous these ideas are but i cant get rid of them!!

I worrybecause i'm scared of losing him, he was my best friend for 3 years before we got together and i dont know what i would do if i lost him now...

yeah i'm afraid he'll get hurt and yeah im afraid he has more fun with others than with me.

I never stop him from going out, i tell him to do it more but he knows how it makes me upset and i cant take back that knowledge

Why do you worry?

Are you afraid he'll be hurt?
Or are you afraid he'll have fun without you? Fun with another girl?

Perhaps now's the time to learn trust. Because holding him back from having time away from you is the best way to drive him away.

If u have that feeling then you're either insecure, don't have a trusting relationship or he is up to know good.

I don't let my bf out :/

just relax and enjoy your own life as well. it might take your mind off it too.

If this keeps up he will eventually get tired of this.

Don't worry so much it'll ruin your relationship if he feels he can never go out with his friends and that you don't trust him. Do you have friends you can hang out with?

Why don't you go and do something. Go out with friends or just yourself. I do it all of the time. My boyfriends friends are boring. AND if he wants some other girl he is going to do it anyway. If you worry or not the same thing will happen.

What is he doing when he is "going out" ? Drinking at the bar or clubs gocking over other women ??
Then yeah, follow your heart.

But how?

He knows I trust him, and I do. It's me being good enough that I don't trust...
I've tried going out with friends and my sisters but when i do i still worry i'm going to lose him

Go out with your friends.

Do you have any reason to suspect him? If not then maybe don't worry so much.