Is it normal that everyone just ignores me?

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I often invite friends over and we chat for a long time but i don't want to continue our ''meetings'' Because i feel more and more ignored those evenings. Like that one time where i wanted to talk to my friends about a problem i have with my mother. I waited for my turn making sure i don't cut my friends in the middle of their stories, but when i start they suddenly just look around or just look somewhere else like if they try to avoid it. So i decided not to tell them, you know out of respect. But then i start talking about something else and they just get on their phones or just start talking to each other like if i'm not saying anything to anyone.
I told them already about stopping this and they don't understand what i'm "trying" to say. They told me that they never did what i described and they were always there when i talked about my problems. They don't want me to stop the meetings. what should i do? it even happens at work like if i'm a burden to everyone. My parents too.

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  • Darthtatersalad
    10 years ago

    People in High School and often times in work really don't care for other peoples problems, there are clear exceptions to this of course but the best way to deal with it in my opinion is to find someone who feels similar or find someone who may be closer such as a brother, girlfriend, or even an aunt or uncle.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    It doesn't really surprise me. That's why I usually don't talk about my problems to my friends. You know, people are generally too busy about themselves to listen people's problems, even if you are a good or close friend. Otherwise, talking about problems during a meeting is not a good idea. If you really need help or advice for anything, ask one of your friend one by one as it was said previously. You may be also rambling on about your problems a lot and talking about the same things without realizing it and not only during those kind of evenings. I'm not saying that it's what you're doing. It is an assumption.

    We sometimes just want help. But we all have problems and most often, people tend to become indifferents to their friend's pain. Then, we feel sad about it and have the impression that our friends don't care.
    Otherwise, your friends told you you were wrong and said they do care about you. So trust them. And if you really think it's not, then stop those meetings for good.

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  • eastbeast
    10 years ago

    6 comments.
    There's proof not everyone is ignoring you.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    You should try to talk to them one by one.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I'm sorry did you say something.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Well that was rude!

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  • iritating
    8 years ago

    well probably they are just not the people with same mindset as yours, may be time to make new friends, try me i would say ;) :)

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    Listen to what you are saying and how you are saying it just to see if you are bringing people down too much. Everybody has problems, but just make sure there is a balance and you can be happy more of the time than you are unhappy or complaining. I'm not an expert as I don't have tons of friends, but it is one possibility to watch out for. Lots of times it is the other people just being shallow though.

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  • IIN2?uestionlife
    10 years ago

    You should pick one individual that you really trust and just talk to them personally. If not try to find an outlet like art, poetry, etc.

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  • Gamzeee
    10 years ago

    That sucks. Yous should try to talk to other people and make new friends.

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  • MisaMeow
    10 years ago

    I think you ought to yell at them while talking to make them listen!! If they're still like an idiots, stop being nice and cut off their sentence if they started talking or ignore their story like what they've done to you. speak LOUDLY.it works for me, I've been in that situation like yours ..

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