Is it normal that every time i have sex, i cry?

"empty and worthless feeling I get after sex"

This is not a normal healthy way to feel about sex. Before continuing with sexual activity, it may be beneficial to talk to a therapist.

Ixu has VERY excellent points too - don't have sex unless you truly want it. Don't force yourself into this before you're ready. And don't just pick any man... pick a partner who actually cares about you, one who'll be patient if you have setbacks during lovemaking.

I remember reading something (article, letter? I don't remember) written by a rape victim. she was mostly healed in body and mind, but even years later sometimes she would panic while making love to her husband. when that happened, he would stop and wait for her, no matter how long it took for the panic to subside.

that perhaps is something to aim for - not a perfect sexual relationship like what you see in the movies, but a partner who cares about YOU rather than just one who wants to get laid.

During sex the brain releases a lot of dopamine which is fantastic and thrilling although very tiring which leaves you feeling a bit dreary afterwards. In this case you're either the type of person that releases excess dopamine while doing pleasurable things or you're mentally scarred or both.

First of all, only have sex if you really want to, don't force yourself to be turned on and secondly remind yourself that you're actually having a fantastic time while having sex, don't bring up issues from the past and when you're feeling drained just take a nap ;)

I think you have been damaged by your ex.

let's do phone sex. Might be easier on you