Is it normal that every partner i have bores me?!

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I am a gay male and used to date women before I came out of the closet. I dated one girl for over 2 years and we were very serious. I loved her a lot, but just was not in love with her completely or sexually attracted to her. Our relationship was wonderful and she was an amazing girlfriend with an awesome personality. She was by far one of the most interesting, outgoing, crazy, funny people I know. Now that I am out of the closet and no longer with her, I have tried dating men, but never seem to keep interest in the relationship. I ALWAYS get bored with them and always seem to compare them to my ex-girlfriend. No one ever seems to make me laugh like her, no one is as outgoing and crazy as her. No one excites me like she did, and I always get bored with people because they don't compare to her. I wish I could change it but I can't! How do I stop myself from comparing when that is the type of person I am looking for, just in a man!?

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  • starie
    11 years ago

    In response to the other comments: If he isn't sexually attracted to women at all, then he isn't bisexual.

    You enjoyed her personality. You can't expect to find someone who has the same personality as someone else. Everyone is different.
    It isn't fair to meet someone while already having an idea of what you want them to be like and then be dissapointed when they didnt fit into your "little box".

    You have to understand that everyone has a different way of being and that if you compare everyone to your ex then you are going to be setting yourself up for dissapointment.

    No one can hold up to your ex and it isn't fair for you to want them to. (When i say this it isnt because your ex is this amazing one of a kind person. It's because of the fact that no two people are exactly the same.)

    The moment you stop comparing others to your ex will be the moment you finally start giving value to the other people around you, who, when given the chance, can surprise you with their own personalities.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    So do mine!

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Not to be crass, but you're comparing apples with oranges. As a bisexual, a man is never going to give you what a woman can, and I mean emotionally. Maybe you're bisexual?

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    • starie
      11 years ago

      I disagree.

      A persons sex doesn't have to influence their personality. Thoughts arent gender based imo. Plus there are always gay men who have similar ways of being to women.

      Imo, people are people not matter what body part they happen to have.

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      • Darkoil
        11 years ago

        Actually for the majority of people sex does influence their personality in the form of gender-roles.

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