Is it normal that counseling only makes things worse?

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I have been going to counseling on and off all my adult life for advice on dealing with lifes problems and I don't feel like it does much good. In fact I notice I often feel worse after going. I will go to vent about what I think but then I feel that I am judged by them with makes me more irritated. It also frusterates me that they seem to think im lying about some of my experiences that happen to me. I dont think its just the counciler because Ive been to several of them. Maybe what makes me feel worse is they tell me how things in certain situations but I actually dont like how things are. For example I went to counciling with my ex-girlfriend and we would talk about what annoyed us about each other which made the truth come out and she broke up with me and kicked me out. I have also realized that the mental health clinics only know about common problems like substance abuse, low self esteem, phobias, and trauma. However I cannot relate to most common problems their trained to deal with which may contribute to them not knowing how to help me. I just don't know how to deal with people and I never know who is going to try to take advantage of me. Now I realize I could just not go but I also like having someone whos not in my personal life to vent to. Also where I live I have to be enrolled with counciling to get medication services to help me with functioning. However being judged makes me honestly want to kill everyone. The more I learn about people the more I dont like them.

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  • lemonlove
    11 years ago

    Sometimes counseling makes you feel worse because your working through your issues, the whole it gets worse before it gets better. But maybe you should take a break from counseling for awhile

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  • Sia327
    11 years ago

    I'll be honest counselling doesn't work for me and never has. This one lady I had who was a creative therapist sort of helped but even then I didn't feel comfortable. I suggest perhaps writing down your emotions or trying to talk to a friend.

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  • BlondeRedhead
    11 years ago

    It sounds like you're seeing the wrong therapist. It can take a few tries to find the right one, and even then, keep in mind that they see everything through whatever filters they personally have (ie, if a male therapist had a nasty mother, he might be partial to siding with men in couples' therapy, or if a female therapist was abused by an ex, she might tend to side with the woman), "trained professional" or not. Try to take them with a grain of salt- they're only human. Also, google is your friend- See if you can find a therapist who *is* familiar with your kinds of issues via google.

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  • Green125
    11 years ago

    Care what people think, but don't obsess it. If you think someone is judging you then ignore it. If it bothers you so much ignore it. You have to live your life without having the constant approval of society. Live your life. Don't worry what people may be saying. Their opinion doesn't matter.

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  • Short&2thepoint
    11 years ago

    Bahaha, welcome to life.

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