Is it normal that boys don't talk to me.

I'm a guy, and to be honest for a second I though "Oh, I would flirt with you..." but then I looked at the description again and thought about it. You do sound really beautiful and I think it's a combination of intimidation from that (Because I flirt with most female friends but a really hot one that I don't know I feel like "Oh sh*t I better not say that to HER") and seeming stand-offish or unapproachable. I've also been told I tend to look kind of unapproachable, and I know because I look that way on purpose haha.Maybe trying to appear friendly or interested can might help.

Honestly I relate to this so much and I'm sorry you have to go through it too. I'm not really sure why this is done so I'm not much help. I'm sure you're a lovely person though.

I would love to know what the state of your affairs is now. I am in the exact same position, down to the very last detail, and I hate myself and the world for it. It's made me bitter, and I fear nothing will ever look up for me. I'm about to start my freshman year of college and I am extremely nervous.

It almost feels like I'm reading something I've written myself.
It just seems so unreal how someone like you could get shoved aside like that. It's like how I can't understand why girls don't want anything to do with me, even though I think I'm a perfectly normal guy, but I guess that's another matter...

You can be skinny and ugly you can also be fat and beautiful. Not everyone who is skinny is beautiful and not everyone who is fat is ugly. Don't be so judgemental.

Smile more!

I know the feeling I'm the same way.

This happens to me constantly. It makes you feel like shit. I also went to see someone about other things too and she also cried for me. She said that she felt sorry for me because I care about everyone and the world so much that it must be a burden. I also love more than anyone knows and I am there for even people I dont know. I have tried to speak to guys but they just look at me up and down and give a discusted look and turn away. I too get people think Im lying when I tell them no one is interested in me and doesnt speak to me. Well it feels like they arent interested. I googled this tonight as I really felt down about it and wnated to find out why it was happening Im so happy I came across your post because it makes me feel like Im not alone. I look at these girls, I also think are prettier than me and feel like Im not good enough. It makes you feel like your gonna be alone forever and you just want someone to hold your hand, look in your eyes and tell you, That yes you are good enough and your good enough for them. Unlike you my family are pretty selfish and don't bother with me despite trying to constantly form a relationship. I finally gave up after all the insults etc. Like you people tell me Im gorgeous, Pretty etc but I feel if that was true, I wouldn't feel like this, I wouldn't be alone and I wouldnt be passed off for some other girl, That gives me dirty looks. Yes these girls that the guys pick always give me dirty looks for what reason I dont know. I dont speak to them, I dont look at their boyfriend and I wouldnt do that anyway. I just simply exist and I have had not so nice girls be mean to me and when I ask why, They say “Well look at you, Your pretty arent u” I cant help bit laugh at this cos I think to myself, You have no idea what my life os like and people say its because they are threatened by me but I think they are prettier than me and how are they threatened when they have someone and I don't.

Anyway Im not trying to bring u down further, Just wanted u to know ur not alone and quite honestly I was thinking it was just me. I do have some good advice though, Be yourself, If they dont speak to you then they arent worth the time anyway and if anyone treats u like shit, Ignore them and be the best you. Be happy with and comfortable with yourself. I spent too many years when I was younger watching my mum get treated terrible by men and she let them because she just wanted to be loved and although I want that to, I will not let anyone treat me like rubbish. Im concentrating on my career now. Concentrate on what you want and go from there. Boys aren't everything hunny 🙂 Thats what makes me stay strong. I realised theres nothing wrong with me and its them, Not me but Im human, I get sad sometimes but please stay strong hunny

I think it's normal most guys probably think you're taken and probably don't want to waste their time trying to get you. If you've never talked to a guy you have only yourself to blame take responsibility for your own life and talk to a guy you can't expect others to do these things for you. I don't feel sorry for you at all.

Golden blonde hair, 5'5 , blue eyes and not being fat has nothing to do with attractiveness. I stopped feeling bad for you after reading that. These dudes are off put by your ignorance and bitterness.

They dont talk to you cuz you seem like a bitch to me

You first problem is that you don't talk to them first!!! Stop feeling bad for yourself and google how to flirt and maybe stop dressing so nice, this could make you seem stuck-up. Sounds weird but tell your friends to set you up on a blind date.

It's not what I would call normal, but you almost sound like my friend Madeleine. The only thing different is that I think she's scared of being by guys. She's one of the best people I know, she's sweet and warm hearted and has so much to offer, but it's almost as if she's afraid the if she talks to a guy she's going to get attached and start a relationship she doesn't want. I find it a bit sad. Take the first step and say hi to a guy, talk to him some and if you have classes together ask to sit by him and all. If he ever asks you out or even just let's you hang out with he and his friends or something, I guess your problem is fixed.

It seems like to 'fix this' you need to go to them. Just get a guy friend and others will follow :P It's not like they're aliens or anything it's easy! plus making the first move makes you seem more confident etc. :]

You probably come off as not being interested in the guys our girls for that matter...guys may think your too innocent for it took be worth their time

Also maybe the guys that are more compatible with you see you get all dough-eyed for "assholes" (guys know the difference between a confident dumbass and a confident guy that doesn't feel the need to exert his "alpha-male" because he knows where he stands)

A tip.

Flirt with the quietest guy in the room

some guys can be intimidated by your smouldering good looks and think that they are out of your league. if you want a guy to talk to you then you need to make the first move. let the guys know that you are easy going and a cool chick.

I agree with Jen some times people just come off as always angry of unaproachable. From your facial expresion or body language even you are not mad or angry. This makes it alot harder for guys to approach you. If this is the case why don't you try to approach a guy you are intersted int. Since you seem to have enoguh condifence instead of just waiting for someone to come after you chase after what you want.

There were many girls in high school and college that I wanted to ask out. I didn't because I was too shy.

If only a girl would have walked up to me and asked me to a show, exhibit, or even pizza and a movie.

I'm not saying you do, but some people can just appear naturally standoffish. I'm sorry if what I say is something you've heard before, which is likely. You say you never flirt. Why not? You know how to, come on, you hang out with other girls, you've seen it happen ;) First of all, get rid of this feeling that boys will never notice you. Just let it go and start fresh. Second, be confident, smile, participate in conversation, take initiative. Stop texting awkwardly (although I do the same thing, all the time). Establish connections with people. Listen to what they're saying and relate to them. If you don't express interest in a dude, why should he take interest with you?

Anyways, that's all the advice I really have. You seem like a nice girl. Best of luck!

wow i thought i was reading about myself but i'm a guy, almost all points are same, i got hidden socialanxiety so i think i appear more ignornat and standofish as knowone knows. I seam be fine with people in shops or dont know but scared of commitments i think.

If people have broken threw my defences they seam give up quick ha. i rekon people would be shocked if never knew had relationships or slept many people i tend cover it up saying i go other place or know people diff town etc. I got 1 friend who quite similar to me and we both used socialise a lot and do cool stuff. It kinda of an unwritten code we have we dont acully talk about it but we both know we have issues ha.

I totally relate to teh post i know i writing bad i tired ha but it gets harder i think as people knowtice so i feel it easier to look ignornat or doing something else to cover up awkardness i.e textin, how did we cope before fones i use mine so much to get out awkward situtions.

It cant be my looks i dont think i attarctive to anyone but people said i ok and some girls said i look like timberlake ha. There must be something in my perception and personality. I think it can get harder if have fear rejection in group talks and looking stupid etc it case for me anyway

only females i tend talk to is my mum and doctors or people on tills. Knowone mentions it to me but must be noticable, i neve rknow what to say to girls ha i always think about hard explain why

I agree with the standoffish comments plus you might just be making this issue a self-fulfilling prophecy.

i could tell you why if I can see a photo of you. got Facebook or some?