Is it normal that boyfriend still lives with ex-wife and her boyfriend

Finally had to break-up with my boyfriend. I didn't mind really that he was still living with his ex. He explained in the beginning that it was mainly due to financial reasons. However, what I found hard to accept (and understand) was their living arrangements where they still discussed issues on a regular basis and talked almost every single day. Funny thing was in the beginning of our relationship, he told me how his ex had cheated on him, that she was a slut and that's why they ended up getting a divorce. The thing that really hurt me though was the fact that he would bring her up every now and then. One day, he mentioned how he stayed home one day and she was home too and they ended up watching TV together the whole afternoon. I got upset because I called him that day and he didn't return my call. When he tried to explain, he was defensive about the whole thing. So that made me realize if he is still hung up on his ex, there is no room for me in his life. It's just too bad I felt sorry for him being in the situation he was with. Now I realize he uses his situation to gain sympathy from people.

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Comments ( 9 )
  • MercedesBenz

    He sounds like a loser. Co-dependent. Immature.

    Move on.

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  • alv1592

    that doesn't sound normal. that's probably awkward for everybody that lives in that house.

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  • he sounds like he cant stand on his own 2 feet, you deserve better

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  • Gardenia

    Boo:/
    He probably still likes her.
    To hell with him... He comes with baggage babe.

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  • norm

    Totally not worth your time.

    Ending it was the best thing you could do.

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  • joelsmo

    I see nothing wrong with what they were doing. Financially, for the child, was probably the best thing for everyone. People think just because you fall out of love you must go bankrupt. It doesn't have to be that way. Just because they no longer loved each other doesn't mean they couldn't still be friends. This may not be a normal things, but it sounds like the couple were smart enough to put emotions on the side and did what it took to separate without losing their asses. You don't have to love someone to watch tv with them. Did you expect they would live in the same house and never speak. It's unfortunate that you never gave the guy a chance. He was honest from the get go and for some reason you believe him to be a liar. I guess you would care for him more if he owed $100,000 to a divorce lawyer. Go ahead and listen to the people above, our society is experts on divorce.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

      If it was "for the child" they wouldn't have been divorced in the first place.

      It sounds more like they want the freedom to have sex with whomever they want while keeping a "stable" life together.

      and it sounds a little like he's using his living arrangements to justify not moving in with say... a new girlfriend.

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  • vchen87

    great comments and good for you. move on and know that your decision to ends things is 100% valid.

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  • fygi69

    Thank you for your commentsn and support. Still hurting, but definitely moving on.

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