Is it normal that boyfriend asked me to marry him, but doesn't want

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Hi my bf of three years proposed to me last week, he wants to get married ASAP , and no I'm not pregnant . He is in the military he joined after we had been dating for a year and a half , he wants me to move to where is stationed, but due to college and my job I've chosen the long distance route.idk y now when I'm year left to graduate, but the weird thing is he hasn't told his parents, to me that's a red flag that something isn't right. We live 7 hours apart, so we see each other a lot, I refuse to marry him unless he tells his parents that he asked, he says I'm not normal tell me what you think peeps, good bad let me know.thank you.

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Based on 54 votes (24 yes)
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  • angelz098
    11 years ago

    He's the one that isn't normal... You are more than normal for wanting him to tell his parents as he should and is obligated too, not only for your sake but for his parents sake too... Then again he might not want to tell them because he's afraid they will try to get him not to go through with it and he wants to tell them after the deed is done

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    • Obxgirl19
      11 years ago

      Yes, that's what he says and I understand that, but his parents have always been supportive of us as couple, we all get along so well, that I feel like this will hurt them, and I feel it's only fair to allow his parents to voice their concerns, good or bad. So y that is a understandable excuse it just seems like a I'm afraid of getting in trouble excuse which maybe he needs to ask him self if its a bad thing then maybe we need to just wait it out until he feels comfortable about telling them you know.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    RUN!

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    • Obxgirl19
      11 years ago

      I am going abroad to Australia Melbourne got my letter yesterday I'm hauling ass.

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      • RoseIsabella
        11 years ago

        YaY!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe he's ashamed of you?

    May be he is worried about what his parents might say.

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    • RoseIsabella
      11 years ago

      It's also possible he could be ashamed of his parents too. Either way it's not good.

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    I think your expectations are reasonable. It's normal for people to inform their family shortly after proposing (well, unless they are estranged). Perhaps he's afraid that they won't approve and he doesn't want to deal with the drama. I would ask him why he doesn't want to tell.

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    • Obxgirl19
      11 years ago

      You know funny thing when I read your apply I was like hmmm I have asked him just the other night on Skype and he never really answered he kind of did but rele didn't I'm gonna ask again tonight.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    It sounds like he hear that married couples get way more $$$$ and other benefits.

    Seriously, that's what happened. Evaluate this girl.

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