Is it normal that being nice to a girl seems like it doesnt work?

Why do so many guys blame their niceness for being rejected? It makes little sense. That'd be like saying a girl rejected you because you were too good looking, too intelligent or too good in bed.

There are a number of reasons why a girl might reject you. For example, she doesn't think your personalities match, she's in love with someone else, she doesn't want a relationship,...

Sure, some women are in relationships with jerks, but they usually love those guys in spite of their jerkwad behavior. Not because of it. I don't know why your girl rejected you, but you should shift the blame on something else.

Maybe you had a boner and she was like eeew.

Be mean, it works.

You should ALWAYS be nice. Man I hate it when people make "being nice" seem like such an effort. When people say they "try to be nice" I read it as they're not nice at all they're just pretending. Just treat most people with civil respect.

Nice is not the same thing as compatibility.

Flip the roles. Imagine a girl that's nice to you. She says good morning, remembers everyone's birthdays what ever. But you just don't like her that way. Maybe her favorite TV show is glee and she never shuts up about it. She's still the nice girl that remembers birthdays but you don't want to date her.

Being nice works. BUT,(some) nice guys tend to play it safe for too long. If you have intentions to be with a girl, don't hesitate.

Hahaha, women don't want a "nice" guy. That doesn't mean you're not allowed to be kind and shit, but being a nice guy will get you no where.

Pay your friend to bully her, then beat pretend to beat him up :D

And there you go, your a nice guy and a tough guy and your getting BJ's all week long

Girls like nice, but they like confidence as well. Most "nice guys" have little confidence so they blame the "jerks" with plenty of confidence and they drown in their own self-pity.

Signed,
Knight Nigel Wellington XXI

Girls are not a mystery. Understand that their ways aren't a complex rationality, but more so irrational and contradictory ways. Those things can get mixed up easily.

Women will say that they want a nice guy, then go with the asshole. She'll then ask where all the nice guys are.

That isn't mystery, that is an irrational contradiction.

My ex was nice to me and it worked. We worked at the same place and the day he asked me out he was more nice and helpful than usual.

The wisest man in existence once wrote a book on women. It was blank from beginning to end.

The problem most guys make in discerning women is that they see it through their own eyes, rather than through the woman's. Be confidant. Spend time around the guys who seem to attract women like a carcass attracts flies (maybe not the best metaphor, but you get the point).

Inevitably, by being around them you'll become like them. And don't beat yourself up. If you look for something you'll find it.

I have no doubt you'll eventually become a lady killer if you really want to be ;)

Being nice to a girl once she is (sexually) attracted to you is fine but being a "nice guy" generally doesn´t work. She will most likely put you into a "friend zone" and not among potential dating partners. Girls might like you if you are nice but as a friend and nothing more - being too nice robs you of sex-appeal. Make it clear from the beginning that you want to date her not to be a friend with her. Don´t wait too long before you approach her physically. Don´t be too shy and initiate physical contact with her as soon as possible. It´s always better to be direct than hesitant. It usually doesn´t help to show her that you adore her and desperately want to be with her.

Most of the time nice will get you nowhere, you don't need to be an asshole (usually), but once you are too nice to a girl she will either use you or you'll become her gay friend. Show your intentions from the very beginning, that you're not there for friendship but for a relationship, girls do like confidence, firmness and direct approach, it lets them know that you're a man.

It's just as the same for girls, bro . Make it clear they can't mistake your kindness for weakness .

They're only out for your MONEY.Watch your wallet.

A lot of guys are going to tell you that women are only after jerks. And yeah, I've seen my share of women who are idiodically chasing jerks and then wonder why they can't find "Mr.Perfect" or a guy that will treat them well. However, that is not always the case. I myself would rather saw off my arms and legs before giving into someone who treats me like shit, and I think a lot of other women would too. What a little guys tend to mistake is what we mean by the word "bad boy". You don't have to be a jerk to have the "bad Boy" aspect, and infact, there are plenty of very nice men who I would consider the "bad boy". What we mean by
"bad boy" (or at least what I mean) is not exactly a guy who is bad. He's just a guy who is confident, fun, not afraid to stick up for himself and his girl, outgoing, and not afaid to take a risk.

It's ALWAYS good to be nice. Again, I would never put myself in a relationship with someone who is a jerk because blood will fly, but there are other attributes that we like aside from being nice. If you are too meek, shy, afraid, timid, sensative (sensative meaning, you let everything hurt your feelings) weak, gently, and overall not confident, chances are, you are going to find it hard to get a date.

A lot of guys come off with a very femenine attitude towards women, and as much as you may have read in the magazines and seen it on television, we are NOT looking for your feminine side. Otherwise, we'd just date another woman. Feminine and emotional is out of the question!

When it comes to someone like me, I wouldn't mind just dating someone to have fun with, and if a guy doesn't look very much like fun, then his chances of dating me are slim.

I am not saying you have to change yourself for a girl. PLEASE don't change yourself because your best bet is just to be you. I'm just letting you know that if you are in the timid, emotional bubble, it's time to come out of it.

Not really, I'm a girl and even though I've only dated one guy it was because he was really nice to me even when other guys were complete assholes. But it really depends on girl for example I wouldn't date you if you are just nice to me. We need to have something in common and you shouldn't be boring - that counts for me.