Is it normal that being aware of sexual abuse has ruined my sex life?

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I wonder if anyone (especially women) have ever felt like this.
Like a year ago I started following facebook pages such as Upworthy that have lately been helping people be more aware of social problems related to racism, sexism, abuse, etc. At some point I've felt so bombarded with this sad stories it started to affect me (in fact, I unfollowed some pages).
Knowing that such a big percentage of people have been sexually molested or abused sometimes makes me disgusted of sex at all. I feel it has affected my sex drive.
I would like to be involved in making awareness, and it shouldn't affect me negatively, it just does.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I think its normal to feel sorry or empathy for them . I don't think its normal to be disgusted in sex though . There are people who are beat with belts , do you hate belts? raped with spoons .. will you never eat with a spoon? its okay to feel bad about the abuse but don't blame the act of sex , it was the person who abused the purpose of sex .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks, that the kind of explanation that I need to really assimilate, the difference.
      Thank you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    It shows you are sensitive and a humanist. You care. But please don't let this affect your personal life. Do it like shrinks and cops who try not to take their work experiences home.

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  • Calivy
    8 years ago

    I think it's awesome that you have such empathy, but since it's affecting your attitude toward sex it may be necessary that you unfollow these sites for the time being. Another thing to keep in mind is that rape and sexual assault are not at all about sex itself - they're about power and the dehumanizing of an unwilling person. It's important to separate sex (including rough sex and bsdm, which many consensual, healthy adults enjoy) with assault both for those who have been victimized and for yourself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thank you, I'll work on that. I really need to clarify the difference in my mind.

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  • Couman
    8 years ago

    i think I know how you feel, although that in particular isn't one of the issues that gets to me. Dwelling on bad news too much isn't good for one's mental health.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    Just be careful who you have sex with. All of my sexual experiences have been positive, but I know people who have had bad ones.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Mmmm... It's not really like i feel threatened or scared for my own safety, it's just that thinking about it makes me sad, makes me feel bad for them and disgusted at the people who made them victims.

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  • iloverape
    8 years ago

    All of you are such little bitches...the thrill of being sexually dominant over a woman and forcing her to engage in sex is the most incredible sensation in the world. You say sexual abuse knowledge ruined your sex life? Haha you loser, being aware of the sexual acts of slapping, choking, spitting, gagging, spanking, face fuckin and rough anal sex has made my sex life simply unbelievable.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I was going to respond but I assume you are just a troll, an imbecile or an actual rapist.

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