Is it normal that being around my boyfriend makes me feel bad?
Whenever I hang out with my boyfriend lately, I leave feeling pretty bad. He doesn't outwardly put me down and he's not physically abusive. He just ignores me for long periods of time to play on his phone and does a lot of stuff that bothers me. For example:
I was a crying mess after my grandpa died. When I got back from a stressful and sad week of visiting family and helping grandma sort everything out, he mostly just ignored me all day while I felt bad. Didn't say anything to try and help, and didn't give me a hug until I finally asked. Then he let go after a while and told me to "put (my) big girl panties on."
I needed help buying cat litter because I don't have a car and can't carry something that heavy all the way back from Petco. So, I told him I would buy him beer and make him a taco in exchange for the help. Well, he did help me- and complained the whole time. He said, "I don't think I would be in such a bad mood if I didn't have to run that errand with you" and "the problem with having a car is that people think they can just bum rides off you." Then he told me he didn't want the beer, because he is uncomfortable taking anything from me.
We were talking on his bed one night. He was under the covers. Suddenly he says "I'll tell you a secret... I'm naked." Not in a super jokey way either. So even though it was weird, I just decided to go with it. We got until my clothes were off and he was pretty ****. Then he suddenly turned over and stopped. I asked him why, and he started to put his clothes back on and said, "I don't like the way you've been lately."
Stuff like this. Every time we hang out. He is also rarely affectionate.
Is this normal relationship stuff?