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Both "kids" are under 20 and have basically crushed any chance of pursuing their goals by bumming at home and living with his parent. Is it normal for them to get married at such a young age without any solid income or degree?
They'll break up after a couple of years... and I'm sure she is pregnant and of he is not, then she/he is just plain stupid
Yeah, normal for stupid kids to get married so damn young! I guess they are being very illusional and living In a nice fairy tale world. The kind where it goes perfect, no drama, haven't heard of a thing called divorce (which is very common btw which).wait what's that, is not gonna happen to them? .... But hey maybe I'm wrong.
You are misunderstanding something. A RESPONSIBLE person would wait till they have a sustainable income and degree to get married. An irresponsible person wouldn't.
Since when are teenagers responsible? Though from what I have seen most people who get married that young do not last.
They fail most of the time 1.modern day people don't know the meaning of commitment 2.A lot of people just do it for tax benefits and somewhere to live 3.People seem to do it on a whim and do not think it through.
My uncle and aunt dated since 16, got married, and had 3 kids(My cousins). Though with most of my friends this plan seemed to backfire 2 years after marriage. I am currently single and I have no one I am really interested in right now. I think I prefer being alone now. I prefer friendship. I have been in many relationships and none of them lasted.
And to comment to "one_guy"....
It doesn't matter what age you get married, there is always a chance for divorce, or drama, or bad experiences. No one is perfect and no relationship is perfect either. To make it work, you have to put work into it! I don't care how old you are! And the divorce rate is so high because people have stopped trying to work on their relationships.
You must be the parent in this situation...
It is "normal" for younger generations to grow up faster than older generations. Is it a good thing? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Depends on the individual and how mature they are. I'm 26 now, had my first child at the age of 19. I now have 3 kids (all from the same dad) and got married to my kids dad. I have always been mature for my age and didn't "ruin" my life. It just depends on the person and their maturity level.
I wouldn't say it's normal for two people that young to get engaged but it's not wrong or irresponsible either.
I'm guessing your the mother of the girl? She's 18 and can get engaged to whoever she wants. Only she knows how she feels about this lad and if she wants to spend the rest of her life with him let it be.
You sound too overprotective. Do not restrain love like that as people should be allowed to be free, especially after the age of 18.
Them getting engaged isn't "crushing" anything. They both still have all options open to them and just because they are going to get married doesn't mean that they can't experience life, it's just they want to do it together.
This isn't really a case of normal or abnormal.
Plus... your perceptions of what she and he should do with there life may not be theirs. They may be happy being the way they are.
Life is very short. I'd never recommend that anyone hold back when they have a chance of happiness just because other people may judge them for it.
@ Dappled: True, life is short but wouldn't that be all the more reason to wait and marry someone when you're ready so that you have a happy and successful marriage? I mean problems don't just go away when you get married, there are so many more things to worry about! I don't believe a marriage or another person should be your world and your source of happiness. I believe you have to be happy on your own to be truly happy with another person.
It's not like either person is going anywhere, if they are truly in love why can't they wait?