Is it normal that although i'm not a virgin.....

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Ok, so is it normal, that although I haven't been a virgin in close to a decade, it still hurts (at first and shortly after) for even/only one (1) finger to be inserted into me?

You'd think 9 years and oddly enough, 9 sexual partners later I'd "Loosen" up, and I know guys like tight chicks, but also theres a lot who like loose chicks, I don't know, I just kinda worry about it, it makes me feel self conscience and it makes masturbation a minimal because I don't get off through clitorial stimulation, only vaginally and I don't like inflicting pain onto myself, not into masochism, so basically it's gotta be a guy doing it, or nothing at all.

Not me with fingers or toys...this is sad and stupid lol...idk....ok...I...*ugh!* frustrating, I really shouldn't posted this whilst I was horny as well, just makes it even more frustrating on so many levels wow lol.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I hate when men say they want a virgin cause "they're tight" It's a very misleading statement. A vaginas tightness it dependant on her state of mind. If she is scared it will be tight! Same with you, I'm assuming you are expecting it to hurt, so you tense up and it hurts. There's a medical term I can't recall for that, but it's very common. It's tough to break the habit, but the key is to relax and be comfortable and VERY turned on. If you are ever sleepy and have that wonderful relaxed feeling, and you think of masturbating or whatever, see if you tighten up when you think about it. It's so common, maybe google it, it's pretty normal.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    It depends on a couple of factors.

    1) How much time is passing between sexual encounters? Your vaginal canal will relax with use.

    2) How aroused are you before you proceed with penetration? The canal will widen in preparation.

    3) Moisture. This will also play a factor in how prepared you are. Not just in how wet you are - which is a factor - but in how hydrated you are as well. It can't hurt to ensure you're getting enough water. Even if it doesn't result in producing adequate lubrication, it will result in softer skin... so pretty much it won't hurt. ;)

    lastly, have you considered asking your gynecologist?

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    • sheilarae1987
      11 years ago

      I have spoke with my obgyn and she told me "Hey, it seems normal, no abormalities from what I see through examination, enjoy it because it all goes downhill after childbirth"...not sure what to think of her statement, I mean its nice and refreshing when doc's have sense of humors but um...hmm..

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        cos after you pop kids out you don't always have as much time for sex as you did when you didn't have kids...

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        • sheilarae1987
          11 years ago

          well that and it loosens the pussoir, proven statistic, sure it tightens after being sewn back up bu only temporarily, by the time 3 kids come along the averages woman vag could pose as the new StarGate......SG1!!!

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            11 years ago

            Yeah but since you won't have time for sex anyway it'll tighten back up so you won't have to worry.

            Although that would make for some pretty interesting stargate fanfics. O_o LOL

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