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So I can be chasing after a girl for months and really think I like her but as soon as I sleep with her I want nothing else to do with her. I don't hate them, but there presence can annoy me. Normal yes or no?
I am sure they feel the same about you after your 5 minute solo act....haha
I think everyone needs to calm down, none of the girls I sleep with are under any illusions that I'm going to make them my girlfriend, I clearly state to anyone other then a one night stand that I am not interested in a relationship and I am not overly affectionate to them I don't call them beautiful or shower them in compliments, so in my opinion I don't see how I'm a bad person, whore etc.. Childish girls who are brainwashed by love films need to stop crying on here
some females are like this too. Its a no couth kinda thing but whatever. I hope u run into ur match and once she has u shes too through..maybe then youll be a bit more human and less..ummm whore. =)
It's completely normal and most of my friends agree that this was how we felt before we realized that we were gay. There's so much pressure to be straight and "normal" but you really should stop worrying about fitting in and just be who you are. You have nothing to prove to anyone so just relax and enjoy being who you are. Good luck.
I think you're young and you'll find someone you don't want to escape from after sex. OR you're a narcissist who doesn't like anyone, mostly yourself. It takes one to know one. I feel contempt for anyone who takes me seriously enough to give me warmth, affection, sex. Sex is just a concrete marker that says the other person is a loser because you got them to have sex with you. I HOPE you're just young. Watch the movie ALFIE, the old and new version.
been told i'm a schizoid, but a symptom is lack of sex drive which i'm not lacking but yeh i tend to stop speaking to people and moving onto new people i've kept about 4 friends, but i'll watch the movie thanks for the comment its been one of the only few worth reading
Please, please, beware of professionals, therapists, counselors, ect. Many of them are more fucked up than the people they "help". You're smart enough to know the problem, so you'll figure it out, all you need is a pepsi your own choice of safe counsel. Find a smart person who knows about life. A therapist is an overpaid "friend" that isn't even fun to be with. Find a free friend that actually knows and loves you and won't charge you for their company.
your a fucking asshole and thats from a Guy
Treat them like you want to be treated and if you want them to do that to you..Then you do have something wrong with you.
While its not usual, I don't think it is abnormal. A lot of people are more drawn to the chase (the conquest) than the actual person.
An easy way to overcome this issue, if you want to try a relationship that lasts beyond the first encounter, is to spend the first 3+ months of the relationship without having sex. I don't mean chase her for 3 months, but actually date her for 3 months or longer before you become intimate.
Psychologists have found that after 3 months, the initial lust phase or 'puppy love' begins to wear off. Then you will be able to determine if you're actually interested in the woman, or the conquest.
Funny because same thing happened to me. You need someone you really like, but there it seems you enjoy the chase more than the girl. It's like the pleasure a girl has when she goes shopping. You have it chasing a girl.
You must be very young. When I was very young and with young guys I noticed they didn't know how to act after sex. The seemed insecure or even embarrassed and couldn't (not didn't want to but couldn't) carry on as before. I was sort of the same way, sex definitely changes things between two people but as you get older and more confident and more comfortable with intimate matters, this will probably change.
To be honest im the same, straight after i cum i just want to throw the girl out of my bed and have nothing else to do with them, instead i don,t and just lie awake all night in a bad mood, although ive only been like this since a long term girlfriend broke up with me.
I say the girls derserve it for being so slutty in the first place tO even sleep with you. I mean you can't make a hoe a house-wife is what i'm saying
As much as a bad thing that sounds to me, I think it has a lot to do with Human Nature. Mate and move on, that kind of stuff. It's bad, but normal.
I dunno if that falls under human nature, we are animalistic in certain traits, we are instinctual but also emotive. what makes us different from animals is clear. We have evolved body and spirit... so to say it's just human nature is wrong In my opinion. maybe it's his nature...but in that case you only get what you give. so If he wants to change it then he should re-realize what he wants in life. but if not just stay where he is and call it human nature.As the beatles said " the love you take is equal to the love you make" aka you get what you give.
It is common in alpha males. It is a involuntary function. We were designed that way so we would spread and multiply. Just how some mammals were programmed. The only time I really wanted to be around the female after sex was the one I was in love with. Everyone else was just a physical relationship to me. It took me many years to understand this, but it is natural. Love is the key factor that can change that. Without love its just sex, but there is nothing wrong with that.
I know this is like 6 years old post..
But I am a female 27 years old and I have a similar problem to yours.. There are two categories in which men fall for me..
Men I've deeply fallen for.. A great example is a guy I was crazy in love with.. We lived together almost everyday for 3 years.. after dating for a year.. It was so nice, I was so happy.. until we had sex (yes after 4 years we had sex for the first time..) and that was the end of it.. I felt such a sudden repulsion..I could not stand seeing him nor listening to his voice.. His whole existence bothered me.. I felt so guilty and sad but I can not get rid of that intense repulse I feel.. He was so shocked although I had warned him many times before he didn't expect such a reaction after being 4 years together.. I have to mention that I was turned on by him..
The other category is men I am just sexually attracted to.. I have sex and then I want forget he even exists but when I feel horny again I want to have sex again.. but I do not want a relationship, I don't develop any feelings for them.. I just want us to use each other as sex tools and that is all..
I haven't been molested or smth like that. I've tried so hard to figure out what is going on with me.. I am sure that being such a spiritual person plays its role.. Because when I fall in love with someone it feels like ruins that special spiritual bond.. I van be in a platonic (sexless) relationship forever and be super happy.. But I feel the same repulsion for men I am intensely attracted to but I do not love.. I can not understand why that happens.. I have never been forced to have sex, nor I had any bad sexual experience.. Also I am not asexual.. Nor lesbian.. I can not find what's the problem with me.
Now you must be around 24-25 years old..
I wanted to ask you if you still feel like this? If not what changed? Have you found out the reason this happened to you?
Lots of guys ate like this and plenty if girls too. Usually they ate afraid if commitment perhaps because they have someone else. It's happened to me loads... guy cums then boots you out... at least yay don't have to see the asshole in the morning.
Man, your exactly like me Mann, I got this subconscious thrill of making the girls like me then moving on, or when I have them in the bed then i nut, i want nothing to do with her..
I use to be be in love once in high school 2 years ago, with a girl that was lusty but I real cared for her but she wanted the bad boy.
Hahaha this means it's only nsa, I'm satisfiyed time to take all my shit and run, If can talk to them after then you really like them it's that simple :)
There is something wrong with you. Sex is supposed to bind people together. When you orgasm, you're supposed to feel closer to that person. Find someone you really like. Make sure you're in love and then have sex. If you still feel the same way, you should just cut off your dick.
It's jerks like you that make us girls hate guys. But honestly, maybe you have commitment issues? Or maybe you're just in it for the chase. And once you 'catch the girl', she loses her appeal. Just another trophy gathering dust. I think that if no girl gave into your advances, then, you'd start appreciating them more. Or, you could try getting to know the girl, and like her for her qualities. Then, after the sex, you'll still have her qualities to like, and will there for still like her. I hope that's helpful....
Its ruined a good friendship I had with a girl for years aswell though I took her virginity and that was it I didn't want anything else to do with her, so its not even that all the girls I sleep with are easy cause some I do have to date to sleep with first
The problem is that you're making them out to be more than they are. I had the same problem in High School, it's a challenge that gives the same thrill as hunting. You will track someone until you get them. I know for guys like us it can be difficult to slow down, but if you just settle down and date a girl or get to know them really well and still are attracted to them then you've found one that you will still have feelings for after sex.
I enjoy the chase and sometimes even get bored before I have sex with them. I will spend a while flirting with girls, getting them to like me. Once they like me I will then move on.
It's horrible and I feel guilty but can't help myself