Is it normal that after a year i'm still not over him!

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Ok so about two years ago I fell deeply in love with this guy. We dated for about 8 months. Broke up because he didn't feel he could be the boyfriend I needed, stupid right? Then one month later he got a girl friend, that almost killed me. For about five months I was miserable, lost twenty pounds took medication for depression, and went to therapy. Just when I decided I was over him and we became friends he broke up with her. Of course i was the first person be called! Then he started talking about missing me and how he could always trust me and he screwed up. Every feeling came back, tenfold!! Then as soon as we got together to 'talk' aka slept together he stopped! No more talk of relationships or anything, and he got another girlfriend!! I'm so hurt! I love him so much! Every time I go to the store I dress up incase I see him so maybe he will want me back! Ugh I'm pathetic! It makes me mad as well that he has found two girls and I'm over here single still and am not attracted to anyone cause I compare them to him! I'm trying to move so I am not in the same town as him cause every where I go I think of him!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes it is.

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  • Clairemarie
    11 years ago

    Yeah... It's just hard! I guess I kinda also feel like he is 'winning' as they say, he has the Gf, and a good job. I'm single, looking for a job, living with mom and dad, and still not over him! Ugh! He is such manipulator!! But I have cut off all contact... Again!

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  • sheat
    11 years ago

    well maybe you got comfortable, but if you'll think about it he went to out with two different girls why wanting someone like that. for me that means a lot is like he didn't care and well if I were you just remember the bad things he did to you and you will forget him.....

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    It's been a year for me as well and I'm still not over my ex. All I can say is with time it gets a little easier.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Don't think of it as "not over him after a year" I'll bet you after a year you're more over him than you were when you first broke up, right? Which means it's working!! Him doing that to you probably broke open that whole can of worms again though. In my experience, when it comes to ex's that you can't get over. Break all contact, don't try to be friends with him. Don't talk to him, delete him off facebook, don't fb creep him. Completely clean him from your life. Next step is to find a boyfriend. You're ex came to you after a breakup and used you as a rebound. Not to say that you should rebound, but try getting into a relationship with a guy with the intenetion of not staying with him. So the mentality is that you aren't replacing oyur ex, just testing the waters. If this person is actually a great guy, then be with him. Start a new relationship. Healing really comes from not living in your past,(hence making your present your past) but making new memories so that today becomes the yesterday you want to look back on and smile.

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