Is it normal that a guy only makes out after 4 dates?

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I'm 25 years old and recently met a really hot guy who used to model but is super humble and funny and can be obviously shy and nervous around me. He has gone out of his way to see me 5 times in 2 weeks and texts me all day long and now he calls me to. I just adore him. Anyway, I'm a pretty sexy girl and I'm used to guys being pretty aggressive and trying to get me naked as fast as possible. Not like, then they leave or anything like that, but just I can tell I turn them on. With this guy, he likes to only mske out. Like a lot though. We will make out for an hour or so every time I see him. But that's it! Not even a boob grab?!! He even said I could come o his house (and he cleaned it first) but wen we were in his room he pulled me on the bed and just.. Made out with me.. Is this normal?!!

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  • justaskingt
    12 years ago

    What theytookthat1 is trying to say is, he's gay. And I agree

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      I knowww whyyy he's so hot! :(

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    girls are such perves. why do you want in his pants so much OP?!

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      hahahahaha yes secretly we are i think, open a romance novel they are really ridiculous. honestly sex is important! i was with someone for 7 years and that was a huge part of the relationship, in fact its prob why we were together for so long.

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      • SoccerStud88
        12 years ago

        romance novels are porn for women. they are the top selling type of book too. all the relationships i had with women revolved around the sex as well. without it, what's the point? I can 'not have sex' with all my guy friends whenever i want.

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        • Milenajonijon
          12 years ago

          wait.. when do you want to have sex with your guy friends?
          haha no i see what u mean. i have male friends I don't have sex with but I also don't let them pay for dinner and I don't make out with them for hours on end. What I gather from all the advice here, he is either gay or has a teenie peenie. if he's gay I'll still be his friend if it's the latter im out- i have no patience for time wasters and thats really what he's doing!

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          • SoccerStud88
            12 years ago

            im going to risk yall thinking i have a teenie peenie when i say this, but the size of a penis doesn't really matter. Heck, my tongue and/or fingers can get the job done just as well as a giant penor.

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            • Milenajonijon
              12 years ago

              any of those would be great! but like i said before, all he wants to do is endlessly make-out, added together about an hour and a half of just making out every time i see him ! i dont even know any other guys that like to make out for that long! i feel like im in 8th grade again

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  • theytookthisone
    12 years ago

    He's a male model, enough said

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    Have you tried talking to him about it? You mentioned he's shy and nervous around you so there goes your answer. He's maybe shy in bed too. Some guys when they really like you they take it slow. Not wanting to have sex with you right away it's actually a good thing from him.

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      Not yet .. Still trying to figure out how to say something without Becoming the aggressor >8}

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      • Dazzie
        12 years ago

        You should persuade him. One of these days that you two get to be alone get sexy. Lingerie if needed. Some dirty words. Kisses on the neck. He can't say no to that. He has to loosen up eventually.

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        • Milenajonijon
          12 years ago

          I just want him to initiate I'm also nervous never made the first move.. He's really hot and I feel like most girls throw themselves at him. I'm just going to talk to him about it I guess, maybe in a joking way, so I don't hurt his ego. Just wanted to make sure he wasn't gay or his u know wat doesnt work !

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  • ENC
    12 years ago

    Slow down Bessy, it's called being a gentlemen, and taking things steady. Some guys like to get to know a woman's name and background before he tears off the underwear, then bangs you from behind. Give him some class.

    What's the rush in getting in on? Don't you want an intellectual stimulation and no just physical?

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      its awesome! i was just in a relationship for about 7 years - since i was 18 until May 2011 -that guy and me had sex after a month of being monogamous. im new to dating again. The guys I have met since i was single and even during my relationship are not like this new guy, so I'm just making sure this is normal !! I actaully really like this guy alot he is sweet, funny, adventurous and idealistic...he's also a gorgeous male model and exactly my type if i could draw a picture of the man of my dreams it would be him!! maybe I was trying to find something wrong with him?

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Lol, oh my goodness, just get naked and jump him already :P

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  • flock1234
    12 years ago

    He mightbe Afraid of sex or just have a kissing fetish

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  • tugchug
    12 years ago

    Models (male) tend to be Gay.

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  • Crudhouse
    12 years ago

    There so much hype about guys being assholes that I'm the same way. It feels as if I'm disrespecting the person if I don't have any intention of being with that person for a long period of time, even if the girl obviously wants to do it.

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    He won't say no :P

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Its most likely that he has a small penis. Only one way to find out for yourself, grab that hog and go to work.

    And if it is small have the decency to at least get him off that one time since he has been putting in the work for some time. Then afterwards ridicule his poor excuse for manhood and kick him to the curb.

    Its funny how superficial women really are, its also funny how much reinforces them to be also.

    Just remember small is small and big is big, and average is just another nice way of saying its small.

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      hahaha i would never do that!! I like your quote. My plan is, see if maybe he just has a "5 date rule" and if nothing happens after date 5 then i will just fall of the map :p

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        In all honesty, give him the benefit of the doubt, it seems that he is just taking it slowly which to me suggests he most likely cares about you and wants it to be something special going forward. Nothing wrong with that at all.

        For some reason nice guys always finish last, and nowhere is that more evident then in the dating game. Be the exception to that rule and you may even find yourself very happy for choosing the nice guy. I know myself being a nice guy, though I have yet to get ridiculed for my manhood, there could be a first time for everything I guess. Just kidding.

        On a serious note, dont rush it out, if it works out you have the rest of your life to be intimate but only one chance to make the first time special, am I right? It would be something I would want to look back at fondly at least.

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          I also dont mean "first time" as in being a virgin. I mean the first time for both of you.

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          • Milenajonijon
            12 years ago

            of course, i actually always date nice guys. i was in a relationship for 7 years that ended because of long distance due to work but we are still friends, and hes a great guy. i just wasnt sure if this was normal .. since i have always been the one telling the guy to slow down. if it wasn't for the making out for extended periods of time, you would think he just really liked me as a person. I am a pretty [sexually] adventurous girl once i am in a relationship, i like to try new things and get crazy ! i would like to know what I am working with, sometimes it just feels like he is afraid to show me something.. or do something.. or you're right MAYBE he just wants to take it slow and get to know me.. ill let u know what happens after date 5!

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              He does really like you as a person, that is why he is taking his time. If he just wanted a fling trust me you would know by now and since it seems you have a good head on your shoulders you probably wouldnt be talking to him anymore.

              It seems to be progressing fine in my opinion. 5 dates is a nice start and it will happen in its own good time.

              Good Luck !

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  • pulchritudinous
    12 years ago

    Whether its a subtle hint, an unconscious physiological change while you're thinking about him, or you directly rub against his pants... the first move is always the girls. If he goes in without any signal at all, that's when trouble happens. If he's not picking up on your signal, be more direct. He might be nervous and isn't catching your signals to proceed.

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      yea i might have to hold a sign over my head

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    maybe some people (like myself) find making out more fun than sex. granted i wouldnt onow what sex feels like because im straight edge, but he probably either finds making out hotter or just that he wants to take t slow.

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    Maybe he has a small wiener and tis a bit reluctant.

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    • Milenajonijon
      12 years ago

      I'm afraid of that... Like seriously cuz then I wud prob blow him off haha

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      • taciturn
        12 years ago

        Are you fucking kidding me?

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        • Milenajonijon
          12 years ago

          Yes if it's really small I'm not settling for a guy with a tiny penis , have to be honest . If it's small enough that he's insecure about it, it has to be a problem

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