Is it normal that a girl loves me but she's not in love with me?

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Basically, me and my ex-girlfriend had been together for 18 months. We got lazy in our relationship and eventually last week she told me that she loves me, but she's no longer in love with me anymore.

I wasn't okay with it, but I took it well enough, and then she told me that she wanted to be friends with me. Whilst we were talking on facebook, she asked whether or not I'd worn a shirt she'd bought me for valentines day, and also she'd noticed that I'd shaved and cut my hair. Now, this is just a week after she broke up with me. Is that normal?

Is there anyway I can get her back? What shall I do?

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Based on 14 votes (10 yes)
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  • JD777
    8 years ago

    Hmmmm, if you want her back, try not pursuing her. Be cordial. Don't answer her message right away and maybe pick up a new female facebook friend to make her curious. If she wants you, that might "smoke her out."

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    This is one of the many bullshit things women do when they either aren't in love with someone or "aren't sure". But are also unwilling to give up the potential attention and other positives they can get from men if they stay in touch with the guy. I wouldn't waste time on trying to get her "back" at best a "friends with benefits" arrangement is probably the best you can hope for, if you wanted that.

    If not than delete the number and move on.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Be yourself and live your life, because it's her loss, brah.

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    • Mytwin295
      8 years ago

      whenever people say brah, I sometimes think of that person being a bra.

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  • hokisgurl
    8 years ago

    You said you got lazy. 18 months is a long time to throw away Maybe she felt its not progressing the way she hoped or you guys got lazy and stopped communicating and not enough intimate time for eachother which intimacy isnt sex. Its how well you jell with eachother Little acts of kindness is the key even if you dont get the response you hoped for or nothing in return that is prolly it a simple fix its that simple

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  • MissClaire
    8 years ago

    People (or rather the brain) like, no LOVE certainty. She is hunting for another suitor atm, but would like to keep you as a back up because she is one of those girls that IS NOT COMFORTABLE BEING ALONE. That is a red flag for me - wishy-washy girls with low self esteem that need to be constantly assured about everything........ ugh girls, stop it

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  • breathingtree
    8 years ago

    She loves you but the passion is gone due to familiarity. By being friendly with her now you are solidifying that feeling of friendship-without-passion.

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago

    I wouldn't pass on potential relationships to save a lost one, you might miss out on something real. But if you want her back ignore her. Do not let her control the relationship just so you can have contact with her. Be a man and make it clear to her that no, you don't want to be just friends, you want a real relationship. If that is not what she wants too then you need to move on. If she thinks you are lost to her and really wants a relationship, she will try to work it out. If she is cool with letting you walk away, then there is nothing there to save anyway. But it is not fair to you to be left hurt and confused just so she doesn't have to feel bad for breaking up with you.

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