Is it normal that a couple separated by adultery still live together?

My mother and father recently have begun moving apart after my father cheated on her. They've been together for 26 years and she had cancer at the time. I'm still living at home at 20, and my mother wants to keep my father living in the house so we don't lose it since he was the sole bread earner. I certainly don't want him around after disrespecting my mother - this is not the first time he has cheated. The first ruined my childhood, and now I have to look after my mother and stay strong all over again.

So would the two of them living together normal, even though the relationship is dead, and with the fact that I hate his guts? I certainly don't want him anywhere near me, because I literally will kill him. And he doesn't deserve to even be around my mother. What do you think?

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32% Normal
Based on 92 votes (29 yes)
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  • I think you need to have a heart-to-heart with your dad. Tell him, without yelling or name-calling, how his choice made you feel and what you want from him in the future. You can be angry with him - you have that right, but as long as you are staying in a home that he pays for, you can't expect him to live by YOUR standards.

    You can't control what happens between them as a couple, so don't waste any energy trying.

    Marriage is very complicated and most young people don't understand it because they tend to believe in the logical fallacy of either-or thinking.

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  • wreckd

    Unless you are willing to get a job to support your mother and you (which is a rediculous thing for you to have to do), you'll have to live with it until a miracle comes along. I've never had this happened or witnessed it but it sounds horrible and I am sorry your mother and you have to deal with that.

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  • letmein

    Well, my family had a similar situation. Except it was my mother who cheated on my father, and thus my younger brother was born. They weren't really "happily married" before the incident and the incident didn't help much, but they are still together.

    If you're father is like my mother he completely regrets his decision and it's a constant dark cloud hanging over his head. I'd recommend you tell your father you forgive him(AND mean it), as I did my mother, for complicating our family.

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  • Intension

    only if there are finacial issues involved

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  • moomoo563

    i think u should tell that horny ass(ur dad)a pice of ur mind tell him wht u think about that and if he ecnores u say fuck u and some stuff about ur mom it mite help u and get throu to him and plz dont report me.

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  • Thanks guys...

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  • wigsplitz

    It happens all the time. Regardless of how you feel about it, it's their relationship and their choice. As someone else said, it would be best if you forgave your dad. Hating him does no good.

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  • SweetSherry

    Teee Heeeee another one bites the dust marriage that is I'm not sure if it was before or after your mom got cancer but if it was after she got cancer cut your dad a little slack your mom probably couldn't satisfy your dads horny urges during her horrible sickness don't hate him everyone makea mistakes

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  • LovingTogether

    Adultery is no reason to separate or divorce. My wife and I love each other, have been married for 57 years and on Monday the two of us are going to have sex with our new black friend and screw our brains out! We're both bisexual and have been swinging happily for over 35 years.

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    • Having studied swingers, swinging is COMPLETELY different to adultery. An affair is not consulting, lying and cheating on your spouse, where as with swinging you actually have to be open, have a great relationship and have trust. So no, your statement is mistaken.

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