Is it normal that 3 years in and i'm obsessed with my fiancee?

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I've read similar questions before, but the problem with me is that I have no reason to be obsessed. Do honeymoon phases last this long? It's like I can't do anything away from him. He lives two hours away because of school. When he is back locally, I'm fine. But going through the week knowing that he isn't there really kills me. It's gotten to the point that I commute two hours to work and back just to be with him everyday.

It scares me. I love him so much and he's proposed. We are already planning our wedding and future. But I'm scared that I will drive him away. I don't obsess over what he does or where he is. It's the fact that I love him so much. I just feel as though my emotions are extremely intense. I just want to be able to come home and know that I'll see him each and every day.

Is this unhealthy? Even if he loves me? He's been trying to help me with my problem, but it just makes me feel even more for him. Is this just love?! Honestly, the way I see everything now, he's all that I need to survive.

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  • carebear123
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal when you're in love to be, for lack of a better word, obsessed with your significant other (the word obsessed has such a negative undertone these days). The only way to describe how completely head over heals in love you are to someone who isn’t in love is to say you’re obsessed, that’s the only way that can understand the intensity.

    If you are more obsessed with him than he is with you then it might not end well because he’ll start to feel overwhelmed or like you are too possessive (but no one knows whether it’s like that besides you two)

    If he feels the same as you about your guys’ situation - it's just love and you should embrace it and feel lucky that the honeymoon stage has lasted so long :) not everyone can be so fortunate

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    • ForReal?
      12 years ago

      Awww I totally agree! I think it's great, my boyfriend and I are so obssessed with each other that our biggest fear is one of us will start to lose the obsession.. if he feels the same obsession as you do you have nothing to worry about you are just experiencing TRUE LOVE :) it's so rare these days hold on to that feeling as long as you can!

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      • Kerry69
        10 years ago

        " Yep."

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  • bittersweet21
    12 years ago

    Obsession turns into jealousy and then Murder! Save that poor man and Run away as fast as you can before you kill him!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Get yourself a hobby / interest!

    My EX brother in law was all over my sister for the 6 years they went out together and the 9 years they were married. Turned out he was keeping her sweet coz he was cheating on her the whole time.

    I don't trust it!

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  • YumInsanity
    12 years ago

    That's going to end in tears

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