Is it normal tha i cant move fast enough to please him?

I am a girl and 19. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I still cannot stand having sex. on top One of the main reasons is because my guy is constantly trying to get me to "ride him faster." It makes me feel like I am failing and I get very self concious about my body and the fact that I cannot "go fast enough." on bottom its because my guy is constantly trying to get me to "tighten up and go faster"... how am i supposed to do that on the bottom? and i orgasm but he can't because he says im "too wet" down there and "loose"... whatever that means, like he can't feel anything. It makes me feel like I am failing again. I have the same problem while trying to give him a blow job or a hand job. I can't move my head "fast enough" and he tries to get me to go faster so I feel like a failure and stop. also he wants me to do "deeper" and i have awful gag reflexes. I can't move my hand "fast enough" even when he's, uh "slippery" and i dont know why, feel like his penis just wont move through my hand comfortably. am i grpping to tight? i though my hand was supposed to be all the way round it but... and when i do get up speed i cant seem to maintain it for very long. sometimes I even start to cry because I feel like I can't please him. Is this normal behavior for a guy, and I am being overly sensitive, or should he respect the fact that I am not the best sex partner in the world due to the fact that I never get enough practice because I refuse to do these things anymore. I just can't stand feeling like a failure and not being able to do it right. Any advice would be great.

Yes 4
NO 2
You should put in more effort. 3
Hes an asshole and you havent done anything wrong. 15
I dont know about this...... 1
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  • ccjigsaw

    Not to say this is the case, but I think he might have a problem. Some men when masturbating get a "death grip" on their penis, which makes them less sensitive when it comes to having vaginal intercourse. It just sounds way to weird that you're not "tight enough." Either way, he's handling this wrong.
    Women aren't born knowing how to please a guy...we have to learn from guys themselves. If he wants a handjob/BJ and he says you're not doing it right, then he should be telling you properly, like a human being, not treating you like a broken toy. If you're getting frustrated he should be consoling you and telling you it's not a big deal.(Because it's not)
    If someone was abusing me like that guy is abusing you, I'd bite his dick -.- Flat out bite that nasty dong. Oh? Not tight enough? Do you feel it now >:O

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  • charli.m

    I didn't need to read all of that to know you need to ditch the prick.

    It should be about what works for both of you, not just him. And belittling you and making you feel worthless is NOT the way to go about 'talking' about it.

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    • dom180

      This right here.

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  • quentari

    DYK that when a woman is aroused she will be looser and wetter than when she is not aroused? For you to be tighter you would have to not be enjoying it.

    Anyway he sounds like a dick. Tell him he's making you feel like shit and if he doesn't man up dump his ass. You are NOT his sexual plaything.

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  • peterr

    You know what gets me? You are really trying to please the sonofabitch and he is too stupid to appreciate it. You are a darling. As the others have suggested you should ditch the asshole. Thank you for bringing this up and I sincerely hope you take our advice. Good luck with your next guy. I bet he will be better for you Sweetheart...

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  • Tuxman9169

    I don't know about other couple but this happens with my relationship. I think it is somewhat normal. Guys just want more. Practice, or give him something else like Anal or a threesome/foursome.

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  • ObsessedWithReedus

    He's an asshole.

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  • imadragon

    You are not bad. What's good sex for one person is bad for another.

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