Is it normal sometimes i wish i was poorer?

Don't get me wrong or insult me and read first please: I so hope you do not laugh at me for this because it is really depressing me. Please be serious.

I come from a white wealthy family. I have gone to private school and the only not-white people I had seen in my life were maids, and I never talked to them or touched them. I used to love acting like living a very rich-like life, and money was an important topic for me, because it was important at my school. If you hadn't been to important cities such as Paris, New York, Barcelona, Rome or Sydney you were nobody. I was also so worried about clothes and I didn't even want to touch clothes that weren't from a good brand.

But then, my parents got a new job, and I changed school and then I went to an uni which isn't so posh any more, which is good because my parents don't have so much money now as they used to. At uni, people were poor. People are poor. They rant about money. They don't go to some places because they can't afford it, and what was more shocking: they dress bad and nobody cares. Nobody judges. And also, there are not-white people who are there like everybody else, which would never happen in my previous life.

My parents do not have the money they did before, and in summer I might travel to only three different places, but only one is actually a great good-hotels-like trip.
But the thing is that, I still have more money than most of the people, but I'm not rich, I hear my parents talk about money and it worries me. They're like "Shall we get a new tv?" and my dad will say "Let's wait till next year, too expensive", and that is something that would have never happened before.

My friends, after knowing which school I went to, after looking at my old friends on facebook, seeing my travels, etc. have decided i'm the "the rich white one"; and they see me different, they act different around me. They talk about stuff that I don't really get, and when I ask they are like "You wouldn't understand, poor people stuff" and they don't want to explain it to me.
When we go out, I always want to get the best drinks and good restaurants, and they get angry at me and say "This is not your rich life!".
They once went out without me and when I knew they said that they hadn't told me because I would have died there because I would have thought it was full of low-class people.
They also laugh at the way I dress sometimes. They are like "Oh, this brand again. You posh That's expensive" (Even if I don't really worry as much as I used to about dressing and I even buy in cheaper shops I would have never went before)

It makes me feel so different, I have been trying not to worry about dressing, I never talk about money, I won't be saying I can't afford something (such as a ticket for a concert) because it's a lie, but I don't talk about it; I have been going to places I find even disgusting, and I even rant about money sometimes (I told them I wouldn't be going to New York again because it was way too expensive; but it was a mistake because they told me they had never been to America).
So, sometimes, I wish I was poor like them so they'd treat me the same way. But then, I had always enjoyed life like that. is it normal to feel that way? I'm so confused and feeling ostracised and makes me feel depressed.

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  • I was in your exact opposite position. I was always the poor kid in every school i went to. I lived in houses with no water, heat, or electricity. I am the oldest of 4 kids, and i used to wear throw away close from the nieghbors kids.

    Being poor sucks. I used to get picked on for wearing dirty clothes, which lead to lots of fights in school, and other places. I went to a total of 15 different schools. Mostly, because my family was either evicted and forced to move, or because i got in trouble at school.

    Your friends secretly want what you have. No matter how bad they make fun of you, and call you rich boy, they want your life. The money, the clothes, the cars, the trips to exotic places. They want it all.

    Do not complain about money to them. That's like a fat guy complaining about food to a starving man. Do not talk about the trips you have been on, or the places you have seen. You can not relate to them, and they can not relate to you. That does not mean they shouldn't accept you though.

    Be proud of where you come from. Most people would kill to have lived your life, and some actually have. If your friends can't accept your personality, and like you for you, they are not your friends.

    This is officially the longest post i have ever typed on this site. I want a fucking cookie.

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    • Hha Aw! Im gonna buy you a whole cake not just a cookie <3
      Oh God, 15 schools sounds terrible to me :| I'm sorry, that doesn't seem so nice. Well I guess you're right, you cheered me up, although I do wanna relate to them. Thank you!

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  • Retard73

    You only whent to 3 vacations on the summer? i didnt go anywhere in the summer i was in spain for a week like 3 years ago thats it

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    • Then what do you do during alll summer? :O

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      • Retard73

        maybe u could be with ur friends? and have fun?

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        • All my friends go abroad too!! :o

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  • Loneranger

    You know...It's kinda weird, but I understand what problem you're having. My family was rich, but then bankrupt when I was in secondary school. Personally, I know the difference between rich and poor cultures a lot. I went to private schools at abroad countries...live in rich lifestyle and etc... Now, I am in college...my parents were not rich as before...so it's normal to cut costs and everything. Friends called me fake because they never been in these kind of situations. I can't be angry with my parents because I can't get something that is used to be 'cheap'. It's their money and their property, not mine. My father was really ashamed of his bankruptcy, so we are advised not to socialize with people a lot or else dad will feel really embarrass if people know my dad has not been working for a few years (till now). So, feeling isolated is like norm for me (it have been ages). Imagine, after bankruptcy... a totally different life...from rich to poor. No backup plans and dreams... sometimes people misjudged me and my siblings as the 'weird ones'. I admit, I was at fault for not learning what common folks do. Being ignorant is like stupid and etc... When my parents were rich, i did wish to be poor. Now that I am currently poor, well...it's a lot better being rich. You can have security and comfort. Talking and thinking about money is boring but these financial things need to be considered as serious case. Logically, why should we wish for the bad thing? Why should you become like that just to entertain those people who is for sure just envious of you? With money, you can pay off bills, buy stocks for investments and etc... Being poor sucks a lot... But it somehow makes us repent for our wrong doings and love the things we still have. :)

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    • Aw :) Thank you

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  • Anime7

    Ever seen a show called Firefly? You remind of the Doctor (it's a compliment).

    Your friends do seem annoying and it sounds like you're turning into a down to earth person. My recommendation would be to just ignore their insults and keep being conscience of money. Maybe try making some other friends? Along with the friends you already have I mean. Like I said it sounds like you are turning into a down to earth person, which is good.

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    • Aw thank you (: Well I do have friends from my old school and I still meet up with them, but I get to see my uni friends every day, whereas I barely see the other ones.

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      • Anime7

        Glad to hear that.

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  • dinz

    You actually don't want to be poorer but it got more to do with you are wanting acceptance of some form with your fellow students.

    My suggestion is to fully understand the situation some of your students are going thru, try experiencing it by putting yourself in their feet for a week or so.

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    • zelskid

      Please consider sending me that money

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    • How do you suggest that I put myself in their feet? Thank you though

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      • dinz

        Your welcome.

        Well you could try living on what they get (income wise) for example.

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  • Mersaphe

    That's so sad, I was crying the whole way through, I feel really sorry for you.

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  • Bubbles-for-life

    Its as normal as a cat meowing XD

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Give me all your money so your wish will come true. :-)

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  • pambambam

    you sound really fake. were are you from? you sound shallow.

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  • kelili

    Reading your story I have voted that yes it's normal that you sometimes wish you were poorer. I have no advice and I just want to tell you that it is not a sin to have money.

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    • Well thank you too :)

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  • GuessWho

    I'm going the opposite way. I grew up in a household where we had 'just enough' for a comfortable life.
    ...but I want to study hard and get a well-paying job so that I can have more to spend an live in luxury.

    If people are going to complain about money, they should rather go out and earn it. (What I intend to do.)

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    • Hehe well I also want to live in luxury when I grow up :P I'd be pretty disappointed if I didn't...

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  • Faceless

    Whoa, Im not gonna give you any character ideas for your lame novel. Piss off.

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    • I'm gonna take this as "It was so well-written that it looks like a novel which I didn't like and feel like saying it in a rude way". Whatever...

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