Is it normal sometimes I want to tell you my name?

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  • dappled

    In some ways, I think we'd be nicer to each other if we used real names. Our usernames depersonalise us to an extent. I mean, what is a "dappled"? It doesn't mean anything much. But I have a real name too. I'm a real person.

    I didn't want my first name known here but it kind of slipped out and got around. Eighteen months later, I don't mind it being known. It hasn't done me any harm. I've mentioned my name at least half a dozen times in posts. I was talking to an IINer recently (Hello Amanda!) about what I'd call her if I ever bumped into her in the chat. I've known her a couple of years and I'm not sure I've ever called her by her username. We just use real names. People whose real names I know seem more real to me somehow.

    Maybe more people should do this. If everyone used my real name, I'd be more myself here. I usually am but sometimes it seems like there's a bit of baggage that comes with my username (when I came back with a different username, things felt different).

    However, a note of caution. I know a fair few people's first names but that doesn't mean they want me, or anyone else, using them publicly. Maybe, if people want their name used here, they could put it in their profile. No name in profile means nobody should use it. Perhaps you could be the first; start a bit of an IIN revolution where we refer to each other how people in the real world refer to us by being the first to put it in your profile for this reason.

    I'm Simon, by the way.

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    • 1000yrVampireKing

      I thought we established it was a drink?

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    • bananaface

      Hello Simon, I'm Charlotte!:D Hehe, I feel weird calling you by your first name. Although you might have already known mine, not sure:S.

      OP: I'm exactly the same. I've thought about it a few times in posts where it was sort of relevant, but decided not to, although for sort of weird reasons, maybe. I sometimes wonder what name people imagine I have (if they do), just like how I get curious about stuff other people don't talk about. Oh well! If you do want to share your name, then I guess this is the best post to do it on.:P

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      • shuggy-chan

        Idk, some people call me Ian, but Charlotte is just pretty enough to be ur name, love it

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        • anti-hero

          Ian more like Iam (a homo), am I right? lol

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        • bananaface

          Aww, you're too cute shuggy!:P I mean Ian...eek, this is weird!

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          • shuggy-chan

            Shuggy is fine

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      • anti-hero

        I knew it!

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        • bananaface

          Ha, really:D? How so?

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          • anti-hero

            I have a 6th sense :)

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      • dom180

        Is it weird or creepy that I remembered you were Charlotte from when you mentioned it before, quite a long time ago? I forget where you mentioned it, but I definitely knew from somewhere :L I've never actually met a Charlotte before though ^_^ Hi, Charlotte :D You have a nice name :)

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        • bananaface

          Aww, of course not! I remember all sorts of crap about people which probably makes me sound like a creep, even though I obviously don't deliberately memorise it:P. I can't believe you knew my name, though!

          I'm pretty sure I mentioned it once on a post. Funnily enough, it was when TerryVie called dappled Charlotte, and I said something along the lines of "Hey! But that's my name:O." Heh, not quite that, but something similar anyway. I deleted it though, after it bit. Maybe that was it?

          Ha, you've really never met a Charlotte? We're so common, I'm surprised you haven't met one before! But then again, I've never met a Dom. You have a nice name too, I like it a lot:). Is it short for Dominic or are you just Dom?

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          • dom180

            Ah, I do the same. My brain seems to store up little bits of information like that too. It happens in real life as well - I can be tuning in to random conversations in class and end up accidentally eavesdropping and knowing all sorts of innocuous stuff about them without having ever properly spoken to them :P I read almost everything on IIN even if I only comment on about 10% of it, so I end up being weirdly tuned in to people. It's funny how much you can learn about IINers if you piece together all of their comments. It's like a jigsaw puzzle, and every comment is another piece. So long as you don't forget the memories, or mix up different people, you can build up personalities really clearly. My brain makes weird connections like that. Example: you've described your appearance vaguely here a couple of times and I remember that as well (I hope that isn't creepy - I think it probably is :/). The same goes for some of the other regulars. I sometimes play dumb about it to avoid seeming stalker-ish :/ I can be quite blaze about my own personal information because I figure if someone took the time to piece together my comments they could work it all out anyway without too much effort.

            Wow, that was a seriously long paragraph :S

            Thank you :) And yes, it's short for Dominic :) All my friends call me Dom though, apart from my primary school friend who I've known since I was 4 - she still calls me Dominic sometimes :P

            EDIT: Speaking of TerryVie, has she left for good? :( I've not seen her comment for weeks.

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            • bananaface

              I don't know if she has. I got the impression she was just taking a break, although maybe not.:/ I hope she comes back, she was one of my very favourite users here. I thought she was fantastic.

              And we sound very similar (shocker!:P). If you're a creep, then I'm one too. I don't think we really are, though, especially because it's hardly deliberate. It happens for me in real life also. I tend to remember stuff that other people have completely forgotten about. I don't read most of the stuff on IIN (usually because I tend to be one of the first to comment on it, so if I don't find it interesting, I don't usually return and therefore don't get to read other people's comments). I do read quite a bit, though. I sort of play a bit dumb sometimes too.

              Ha, seriously don't worry, I don't find it creepy that you remember stuff I've mentioned about my appearance. If I've made that comment, then I can't act like it's some outrageous thing that someone has read it and took it into account, like it's some sort of invasion of my privacy. It's not, *I've* revealed it and made it public, so to speak:P. I don't appreciate major tactless behaviour and stalking (which I don't consider you as doing). Either way, I've done what you mentioned with other users, yourself included, hehe:P. Although, you posted a picture, so you're not as vague as I am! Oh well, creeps unite!:P

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              • dom180

                She was great, wasn't she? :) I should have talked to her more often before she left. Maybe she's turned to lurking, will see us talking about her and decide to come back? We can but hope...

                When I was gifted Gold I was the same as you, commenting early before most of the comments had been left. I'd always come back later if it was particularly interesting, or if I could see there were a lot of new comments so I could try and get the best of both worlds. I sometimes spend too much time here because of that! :S

                Haha, I get paranoid about people thinking I'm creepy sometimes. I don't have a clue why that is :P I often find myself asking "is that creepy?" xD I'm glad you think it's okay though :)

                It's funny; I always feel as if I get more closed off over time instead of steadily more open. I would probably never post a picture of myself now, definitely not of my un-obscured face. It happens with friends as well, getting more and more closed off the more I know people because their opinions of me matter to me more as I get know people better. It goes in phases here where I close off and don't want to talk as much, to phases where I really enjoy being open and conversational like I do now :)

                There are bound to be far creepier than us on IIN :D It *is* IIN, after all lol

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      • disfunkshinal

        Charlotte is a very pretty name.

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        • bananaface

          Aww, thank you! As is Michelle:).

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      • Avant-Garde

        I pictured that your name would be something like Penelope or Beth.

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        • bananaface

          I love the name Beth. Penelope too actually, but I've known a really lovely Beth for ages, so I guess that name is special to me. I'm not sure what name I think you have actually. From the top of my head, maybe Maxine or Alex. Am I close:P?

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          • Avant-Garde

            Sorry, both guesses are wrong:P

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      • dappled

        Umm, yes, this is a bit weird. When people sent me their voice posts for the big IIN voice experiment, I assumed people made up their names on their email addresses (not that I'd ever have told anyone anyway). I do remember you were a Charlotte but I kind of imagined you might be a fake Charlotte and your real name was Dave or Bob. The whole reason I'm on IIN is because of a girl called Charlotte. I love the name, loved it even before I met her and she didn't manage to ruin it for me and I still love it. Although she went for a shortened version and was never Charlotte unless she'd done a bad thing. Mind you, I loved the short version too.

        Eek! You're really Charlotte? Really really? I had a name for you in my head (and an image). I think I've become wrong on both counts. :/

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        • bananaface

          Eek, I feel a bit embarrassed now:S. I would have never thought about using another name! I did create another email, so that I didn't have to share my name, but then I accidentally put my name in while setting one up anyway, because I'm dopey like that.

          But yes, I'm *really* a Charlotte:P. A couple of people have used shortened versions, like Charlie and Lottie, but I don't really get called those anymore, mainly just Charlotte now. What was the name you had for me in your head?

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          • dappled

            Heh! My Charlotte wanted everyone to call her Charls (which nobody ever did). But here's the weird thing. I used to call her Apple (because of Apple Charlotte) and now here's me an apple and another Charlotte a fruit too. Weird. I wonder if any of it was subconscious.

            As for your name, I realise I've either completely mixed you up with someone else from when you were first on IIN or I've invented things you've said (or I've dreamed them). I had you down as a Claire, a Joanne, or a possible Anna. Also, I had a vague idea when your birthday was and something you said on IIN made me see that I was completely wrong on that too. Finally, I had your hair colour wrong. It's weird but just this calling you by your name thing has turned you into an entirely new bananaface. :P

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            • bananaface

              Entirely new bananaface?!:O Eek, when I made the comment I thought that you probably already knew my name anyway. Oh well. Ha, I wish I was called Anna! That's one of my favourite names. I love Claire too, but I wouldn't want to be called Joanne since it's one letter away from being my sisters name.:P Heh, Charls? The only time I got people to call me a different name was when I was a kid, when I'd only answer to Mary Star. No idea why!

              Haha, apple:D! I remember when I was first on the site and I said I should have been called appleface because I prefer apples. Thinking about it now, maybe potatoface, because of Charlotte Potatoes. I do love a good spud! Now I'm stuck with icky bananas.>:(

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              • dappled

                Ooh, Charlotte Potatoes might just by my favourites. I have some weird potatoes with purple skins at the moment and I don't know what they'll be good for because I've never had them before. :/

                But yes, you're a whole new bananaface. It's kind of odd because it's like you've killed the old bananaface so you that you can become her on IIN. It's going to take me ages to get used to your hair colour. Next thing I know, you'll be saying you've got three eyebrows or something. :P

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      • I pictured you as 'Tracy'.

        I'm not sure if I'm going to tell my name yet. I have to see how this thread goes, I need help deciding!! :)

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        • bananaface

          Tracy?! Huh, how strange. Ha, I am so not a Tracy, I don't think. How funny:D!

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          • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

            Lmao at Tracy. I'm calling you Tracy from now onwards anyway. I'm Carol.

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            • anti-hero

              That was unexpected.

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            • bananaface

              Ha, no! I like the name, but for some reason when the OP said that's what they pictured me as, I sort of flinched and said "ack!".:S

              I would never have guessed that you're name is Carol. If anything, you're more of a Tracy than me!:P

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              • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

                Haha I found it funny.

                I'm not Carol really. If you have been in chat recently you'll know diaperwolf is organising a play and I'm Carol. OH YEAH!

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    • anti-hero

      Simon, you just blew my mind. I would not have guessed that in a million years. I did however think it was a biblical name because you once said your mother was religious... I think.

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      • Everybody_Talks

        If your mind was blown, How would you type that?

        And that.
        And that.

        ..Well...Im Lilly :D Nice to meet you peoples!

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        • anti-hero

          You make a valid point Lilly.

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          • Everybody_Talks

            Thank you.

            And, Your mind is still blown. Haha!

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            • anti-hero

              I guess so.

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    • kelili

      Hello Simon, I'm Stivelle

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      • dappled

        I would never have guessed your name in a million years because it's a name I've never heard before. I like it a lot, though. It kind of suits you. Hello Stivelle!

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        • kelili

          My name is not common here too and I know no other Stivelle. People usually just call me Vell. I wanted to use it as my username at first but then used kelili.

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    • DarkBlue

      Hey Simon :) I have to tell you I love reading your comments, your input is always interesting :) Never pictured you as a Simon though :D you're still dappled :P

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      • dappled

        Weee! Hello! You know what's weird? Often when I post here I actually feel like "dappled", like it's a character I play.

        Oh, and thank you, by the way. :D

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    • disfunkshinal

      I use mine in my profile. Nice to meet you. I'm Michelle.

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      • dappled

        So you do. Hello Mikki! You don't look anything like the picture I had in my head. Although, is it an insult if I say you are prettier than the mental image I had?

        Oh, and congratulations. :)

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        • disfunkshinal

          Oooh. You're a vegetarian too?

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          • dappled

            I surely am. There are lots of vegetarians on IIN. I can see four in this post alone. And they're just the ones I know about.

            I guess because many people here care (about other people), it makes sense that they'd feel strongly about animals too. :)

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            • disfunkshinal

              Not to mention meat actually makes you pretty fat and tired.

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              • dappled

                And gives you bowel cancer. I don't know if it's true but two people have told me that meat eaters have a pound of undigested meat in their digestive system that may be up to a year old. Ick!

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        • disfunkshinal

          Lol. Thanks? :)

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    • Hi, Simon! I imagined you as a 'Brian'.

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      • dappled

        I'd hate to be Brian but I do kind of match a Brian in one of my favourite TV shows. Simon means "he who listens". I think Brian is a Celtic derivation meaning high-born or noble or great. Sod that! I'll stick with being the person who listens.

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        • Haha...my name happens to be Brian. It is Celtic for "strength."

          Funny thing..."Simon" actually fits my mental image of you.

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    • VioletTrees

      Simon! It's kind of a relief that you posted this. I've been so scared of letting it slip.

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