Is it normal sometimes i feel more like his mom than his wife?

Sometimes I feel more like my husband's Mom than his wife. He's not a very neat person so sometimes I clean up after him (usually don't need to but I recognize that we have different standards of cleanliness and as I am from a Military Family, I can't expect him to be at my level coming from his background). I like to make his meals or get take-out of take him to a restaurant, make sure his hair is brushed and he looks well-groomed. I am not a house wife, we both work and pull good wages. He does things for me as well (cooking me dinner, taking me out, one of us has to make sure we eat, right?) and he will do my laundry too without a complaint, as I will do his.

I would do for him more often but we are both busy people. I think people should do what they can, when they can in a relationship. If I did not have a job I would take most of his domestic workload and vice versa.

We have a good relationship and I am happy, but I hear other female friends complain about doing these things for their men and well... should I be unhappy about it too?

Is it normal to feel more like his Mom than his Wife sometimes, in the sense that sometimes I do the aforementioned things for him (few times a week if I have the energy for it)?

I hate to make it sounds negative (more like his Mom than his Wife) but this is what my friends say.