Is it normal socializing drains me?

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Ok so, throughout my years in school I've always been the quiet, shy, awkward girl. I got bullied for it since I was an easy target due to my shyness and the fact I had social anxiety. Now I'm 20,way less shy than I used to be, part of my job is training quite a few people, sometimes I'm with trainees for 7+ hours after work I feel accomplished. Now on the other hand when it comes to parties and shit I leave them and think "thank God it's over". I'd much rather sit at home smoke a few joints and be by myself or with a close friend as that doesnt leave me feeling drained.

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  • JustMolly
    5 years ago

    It's called being an introvert. Introverts recharge by spending time alone, extraverts recharge by being social. Society has made being an introvert seem "wrong" because the majority of the population is extroverted, (or technically ambivert which is a mix between both). I think you will find that introverts are more reserved, but this doesn't mean that they are "unsocial".

    I'm extremely introverted, yet I am also a chatterbox and will talk my friend's ears off if I'm not careful. As long as I can recharge afterwards, I'm fine at socialising and not the socially retarded person that the media portrays us introverts to be (although I'm sure there a lot of introverts out there who struggle). I think that from what you have written, you are most definitely an introverted person and completely normal!

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    Same. As soon as it's over I breathe a sigh of relief and put my pyjamas on. My face hurts after too much socialising.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Then don't.

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    • strawberryfieldsforever
      5 years ago

      I try to but unfortunately you cant just avoid it completely and if I did I think I'd kinda lose my mind tbh. I'd get sick of it eventually.

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      • IrishPotato
        5 years ago

        Live on an island.

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  • Tetra_holmstead
    5 years ago

    Oh yes. That’s normal. I can’t go out for a night and be with people without just almost falling asleep by the end. Too much energy.

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    Being around other people in groups is very draining. I enjoy it but only in manageable doses, and I always make time to be alone or just with my husband. I get stressed out and depressed if I don't.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Each time s social events ends at work a feeling of peace overcomes me.

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  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    I guess when you're at work training people, you immediately have everyone's attention. Whereas when you attend a social event or party, you may have to compete for that attention, which is a put off for you.

    Not everyone is cut out to mind other people's business and be a social hit and that's absolutely okay and normal. What makes one person comfy can easily make another person cringe.

    Those people at party's create momentary interests in one another, whereas your chats with that one close friend, can establish a better connection and be far more meaningful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I can relate I talk all day at work because I have to but I’m not a very social person and don’t enjoy parties or anything. Sometimes my own company is the best company. Introverted life.

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