Is it normal she waited to tell me she's pregnant?

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This father's day, my girlfriend of a year and a half came to me and said happy father's day. I was confused and said I wasn't a father, and she put her hand on her stomach and smiled. At that moment I felt something I wish I could bottle up and experience over and over again. The timing is coincidental, as we were engaged the next day after I had been planning something special for it for a while. Obviously I was excited at first, and still am, but I'm wondering why she chose do it then when she did when she had known for two weeks. Was she worried I would react badly if she didn't do it in a clever way? Did she want to wait a while to try to figure out if I would like it? Was she unsure about telling me at all? Did the thought of a child worry her? Am I just overthinking and worrying about what was just a cute way to break the news to me?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    You're overthinking it. She sounds absolutely fantastic, by the way. Keeping such wonderful news to herself just so she could tell you in a special way marks her out as pretty special herself. I love stuff like this and I'd be absolutely overjoyed to be told that way.

    The thing to focus on is that you're engaged to the mother of your unborn child, not what secret motive she may have had (not that I think she had any, anyway).

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  • MakeupYourMind
    12 years ago

    i think she just waited so she could tell you on father's day. i have thought i would love to tell my husband that way if i fell pregnant just prior to father's day. it's just a really cool and memorable way to announce the pregnancy don't you think?

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  • Coco327
    12 years ago

    It was only 2 weeks! If she knew father's day was coming up she figured it was the perfect way to tell you. I think it's a really cute and romantic idea. She was being creative! And she was right because you said yourself you wish you bottle that moment forever. You're thinking too much about it, just focus on how happy you are.

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  • :)BABYDOLL:)
    12 years ago

    Hey Congrats on soon to be a father!!!:)
    I think most men over react cause my BF does the same thing too. But it sounds like she just wanted it to be special, why couldnt I think of that?!

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago

    Congratulations!

    Don't overthink it, pregnancy hormones are intense. She was likely trying to find the perfect opportunity and the sentimentality of telling you on Father's Day was fueled by those hormones. I learned I was pregnant on my husband's birthday, it made for the best gift ever.

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    That's a sweet sentiment on her behalf. Plus some women like to wait for a more definite answer before making those announcements simply due to the potential for difficulty to arise at those times of the pregnancy

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Normal to wait.
    First you want to be sure it's not a false alarm.
    And sometimes a woman wants it all to herself for a little while...

    Plus, it sounds like she wanted to make it a special moment... instead of just saying, "hey dude you knocked me up."

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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    The only way to know is ti ask her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    i wouldnt worry about it. she probly just figured the timing was perfect and it would cute. im not in any way trying to be mean when i say this but i think your over reacting a little

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  • icanhascheezburger
    12 years ago

    Was she worried I would react badly if she didn't do it in a clever way?

    Could be, who knows..but her, she may have wanted it to be special and with Father's day coming up thought it'd be more meaningful

    Did she want to wait a while to try to figure out if I would like it?

    Could be..Might have been asking or making subtle hints during that time frame to see what your reactions were

    Was she unsure about telling me at all?

    Doubt it, if she knew she was pregnant then she more than likely was just waiting for the right opportunity to tell you

    Did the thought of a child worry her?

    More than likely initially.. That would be a question you'd have to ask her

    Am I just over-thinking and worrying about what was just a cute way to break the news to me?

    No, you probably have mixed feelings about it, I'm assuming the first one? Now that you know you need to go read some books on becoming a father and be there for her during the pregnancy; this is the time she needs you the absolute most and be very supportive and reassuring

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