Is it normal she disappointed that i don't care she is cheating?

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Ok so i have a girlfriend for 6 years now, I love her and she love me. I was her first and she was my second(sex), and since then we have very very good sex life. We both very sexualy persons and attracted to each other 10/10(easy for me with her awesome body and perfect big ****;)), and it's not going down over the years. Now, She really likes sex and more wild then me in bed. and untill a year ago, got to have sex only with me. She mentioned few time, very quietly, that she is a little curious[about other guys]. And she likes stuff in bed that i'm not in to, like trying anal that I wouldn't try to handcuffs that i was OK to try but didn't like it.

On the other hand, I'm very confident with myself and our relationship. I'm build physically pretty attractive, and have big... And our connection is pefect. With my first girlfriend, when I didn't know that about myself, and was less confident about myself, i got jealous sometimes. But with her I feel no threatened by other guys. I can't see how she will leave me for another guy

So about a year ago I told her I want her to try another guy if she like. After she understood i'm serious, she try it(2 guys since then). Few days ago, after being with the last one, she told me she disappointed that i approve her to be with other guys. She less attractive to me and feel that it was making me less of a man in her eyes..

So, i know, it's not normal:) How big did i screw up? what the best thing I can do? maybe i was too confident? Should i pretend i started to care? how did i got in to this...=\
[sorry about my poor english]

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    10 years ago

    It sounds like she needs to take a good look at her own desires and actions to figure out why she wants other men.

    Now as others have said, if you agreed to this, it's not "cheating" but an open relationship.

    However the fact that she wanted it and now is disappointed that you didn't get mad... makes me think that her reason for it was to get attention rather than to explore other sexual experiences.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    She wants you to "man up" now. She wants you to tell her no more. That she is your woman and only yours. She needs the assurance that you do care and this is how she wants you to show it.
    Every relationship is about give and take; you gave, now take her back.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    It's not really cheating if you say it's okay first. That's an open relationship.

    Maybe part of the turn-on for her was that idea of dominating you, so she was disappointed that you didn't care because that made it less exciting for her.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Didn't read but I agree, who cares if your partner cheats on you, It's just sex.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Thx for the answers!
    I agree its not cheating but it's not exactly an open relationship. She doesn't want me to be with other women and i have no desire to. And she is just trying a little bit until she will filled her curiosity(I think she already did).
    I still pretty lost about what best for me to do though. she seem upset and i don't know how to respond

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      Hmm, it is called an open relationship if you gave her the freedom to experiment some.

      From my point of view you have done nothing wrong, it is she who needs to open up to you and tell you what she wants out of it. Maybe she feels as if you aren't afraid to loose her and that makes her feel upset?

      My boyfriend is basically like you, I have the freedom to have sex with all the girls I want, with or without him and if I ask him about a guy that I'm interested in I get to fuck him. In return we have sex with women together, threesomes that is.

      A part of me would want him to be a bit careful to not let me roam wild, whilst the other part loves him for putting this kinds of faith in me.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    And eat her out for fuck sakes. All women want their cunts eaten to orgasm. Grow a pair Motherfucker!

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