Is it normal sex buddy with ex

I am a guy and I am telling you this is normal but bad idea, because I know if I was him I would keep having sex with you if you let me. This will not win him back but he will act like it will so he can keep having sex with you. You need to move on and have some self-respect you are not a sperm dumpster so stop letting him use you as one. He tells you that he will only bang you if it doesn’t hurt you well tell him that and I bet you he keeps banging you because he doesn’t care as long as he is getting his cake and eating it too.

Don't do it! Trust me, it will just end badly and you'll end up hating yourself for it. I was in a similar situation with my ex. I was crazy in love with him. He loved me, too, but it was one of those things where it was necessary to break up. He broke it off because he didn't trust me and we were constantly bumping heads. Anyways, after the messy breakup, I guess we both weren't ready to be with anyone else sexually so we'd still mess around. Although we set the ground rules for our sexcapades, I found myself breaking them. I fooled myself into thinking that I wouldn't let my feelings for him get in the way, but they did. I would get jealous if any other girl would even think about getting with him, marked my territory, and worst of all, tricked myself into thinking that I would get him back this way eventually. It won't happen. He still thought we were better off broken up and I hated myself for being so stupid.

If he's not in love with you anymore and sex is all he wants, then move on, hon. He's not worthy, and he shouldn't be able to have you- Not your body and sure as hell not your heart.

This probably sounds heartless but you have a free access to sex shag him as much as you like and when you meet someone else just stop

Obviously you and your ex have different goals in mind. He seems to want sex for physical pleasure and you would likely be using it to try to emotionally reconnect with him. The only person who can get hurt here is you.

You are a fuck toy.... Run

I agree with top posters. He would only be using u for sex. Try and move on and find a nice guy

Looking at your list, I can't understand why you'd ever consider this. Yuck. And he won't do it if it hurts you? Yeah, right. Even asking you to consider this is hurtful and disrespectful.

he sounds like yhe biggest douche bag!!!! basicly hes saying, "i dont wanna be with you anymore, but I just wanna jack off into your body.. but I dont wanna hurt you" and you are considering doing it? that would also mean that he could be having sex wth other women and spending time with them after using you as a free prostitute. when u really realize what he means behind his sugar coated words, you should be pissed off!! HELL NO!!! you should pray to god to ask for strength to not be further damaged by this vile piece of sh*t.

Where is this world heading when a term like "friends with benefits" exists ? Don't do it girl .

Don't listen to these saps. Sexy is healthy so you might as well get something good out of your miserable life

As a guy, I'm telling you not to do this. This is not a win-win situation.. He's gonna keep using you for as long as he can..

Don't do it, it will be a major head fuck

it is normal for u to want to do this... however i would suggest not to. i have done it and it doesn't work :( like u i held onto the notion that he would love me but then i tend to attract assholes. anyway he broke up with you for a reason obviously not the sex ;) now he is just trying to get the what he wants from you without having to invest in a relationship. please don't do it its a big mistake and he seems to be a selfish creep. it will only hurt you in the long run. find someone who will love you not just lust over you :) good luck!

Get a hobby.

Don't do it, you'd be doing it for the wrong reason, if he really doesn't wanna hurt you he won't let it happen.

Your not anybodys doll and they can't just fuck with you anytime they want don't do it.... Your just gonna get played

Looking at your list, it is obvious why you would do this. Because you'd rather have this than nothing, and there is a small chance this could bring you together.

Reality is, you'll just end up more hurt. Listen to your head not your heart and let it go.

What you wrote that shows that your relationship is asymmetric. This "friendship with benefit" could be good if you felt also an urge to be independent.

I would say do not go through with it. The only way to make things better is to talk about it, if you do not end up together then forget about him. It will not help, because your feelings for him will always be in the way, and it will hurt you knowing you do not have more than you should have. Go and find a whole man and do not cling on to only half of a man. Remeber boys can easily just have sex with no meaning, girls probably can too but separating your feelings from sex will not work.

Please try to respect yourself. What Lovelyfeathers say is 100 percent correct.

if you care, no. only way that it would possibly work is if neither one of you saw eachother more than a sack of meat to fuck. any more than that it gets complicated... i haven't seen friends with benefits work very often. so its normal to want to but you shouldn't

This is pretty pathetic.