Is it normal: promising first few dates, then suddenly friendzoned?

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Met an interesting girl on a dating website, found out we had lots in common and began talking frequently online/via text. Had 3 very nice dates over 2 weekends where we got along really well. Seemed like there was a lot of chemistry and a real connection being formed [at least from my point of view]. Lots of cuddling and kissing [no sex].

Then a few days later she messages saying that she likes me a lot but isn't ready for a full on relationship. I reply telling her it's fine to take it slow. So I see her again in the weekend, and she's behaving slightly distant and less affectionate - I put it down to bad timing.

Another couple days pass and she messages again and says she just wants to be friends, that she didn't feel much chemistry, we don't connect well enough, and that I'm not her type? This came as a real shock to me because it all seemed great?

Well anyone can tell I got friendzoned hard - What I'm really seeking is some insight into the female psyche into what happened and what was the train of thought leading to her decision? Was she sending mixed signals? And is this a normal thing to happen to a guy after some fantastic dates and the feeling that all's smooth sailing ahead?

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I have to agree with BlueJeans, there may have been some chemistry on your part but not on hers. Honestly, seeing as how your relationship with her is over, why not just ask her yourself? Ask her what happened and what she thinks of you.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    10 years ago

    Only because there was good chemistry and connection on your side doesn't mean there was on her side.
    You probably weren't 'friendzoned' either. She was saying 'can we be friends?' to turn you down nicely. No one wants to be friends with someone they have just been on a few dates with.

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    • Elliemental
      10 years ago

      I disagree. I've wanted to be friends with people I've only met a handful of times and I've turned down a relationship with, but I find a lot of guys only want to know me if I want to be their girlfriends :P I've also (when i was younger) turned guys down because it would work too well, I only wanted to get into relationships I knew wouldn't last. I didn't want to get into any relationship that may become long term, it scared me! I've also put a lot of effort into relationships, the guy will think everything is amazing n perfect but really I didn't have the heart to say that I wasn't ready for anything official, dating is fun but relationships are much scarier!

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    Dude, you can't figure women out. Even I know that. :P

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Must have done/said something wrong, even a very subtle thing for a girl to react like that. Been there done that.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Piss on her farts.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Hahaha!!! That brings to mind some unique imagery.

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