Is it normal people tell me to not take my girlfriend back?

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She broke up with me a year ago because she had a mental breakdown that lasted 6 months literally snapped and screamed at work cried each day, yelled at me over small things like when I accidentally dropped meatloaf. She said she needed to be alone she's not ready she doesn't feel right at all and that I deserve someone so much better because she's in her words "the worst girlfriend" and she loves me but cant be in a relationship.

So I let her go it hurt like hell every day then I hear from her two weeks ago I haven't responded yet. She sends me a text saying she went on antidepressants and is better now that she loves me and never forgot about me and wants to catch up but my friends tell me not to go back but my heart loves her...is it normal?

Before her breakdown she was fine fyi

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    People have mental health crises, and sometimes they're able to get through them and fundamentally shift how they deal with the world and people. Sometimes medication is part of the process of making that inner change. Sometimes the drugs just paper over the cracks, and it all falls to shit again sooner or later.

    You say you still love her, but you've kept her hanging for two weeks now. That's a cruel thing to do to someone you claim to still care about. Maybe you need to think about what feelings you really have for her. (I think you might also want to reassess the quality of your friends, but that's another issue.)

    Anybody can have a mental health crisis. If the situation was reversed, how would you want her to treat you?

    If she doesn't deserve even an hour of your time, then maybe you don't care all that much after all, deep down you blame her for her mental health issues, and you're just in love with the idea of your tragic, lost love cut short in its prime by mental illness.

    If you think she doesn't even deserve a polite response saying that you're glad she's feeling better but you can't deal, then you're a shithead.

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  • barstool
    5 years ago

    It's up to you. Sounds like she legit had mental problems and that's the only reason she acted that way and ended it. So on the one hand, that's not her fault. On the other, she treated you pretty badly.

    If you do get back with her, take things really slow and make it clear you don't want to be treated like that again. Don't let her walk all over you or anything.
    If it feels good, do it. But it feels like returning to something bad or toxic, then....don't? Even if you lurv her.

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  • Notderanged
    5 years ago

    Follow your heart, good human.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago

    If your friends knew what happened and saw how hurt you were of course they're going to tell you not to get back with her. They don't want you to go through that again. Also, you've ignored the message for two weeks, so you probably couldn't do anything about it if you wanted to. Just forget her.

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