Is it normal people constantly ask about my ethnicity?

I'll start off by saying that because this has happened to me so often throughout my life, I am very intrigued by trying to guess the ethnicity/family heritage of others based upon their looks or last name. But I do it in my head! I do not ask them!!!!
Never fails, since I can remember-I meet someone new and they assume I'm not American and proceed with the guessing. If they don't ask me directly they'll ask my husband or one of my friends "what is she?"! High school was great, all the older kids assumed I was a foreign exchange student.
There's nothing wrong with being from another country, I just think it's odd that this Sicilian/French Canadian/Irish/Native American gal gets mistaken for so much, and the fact that it's something I have to talk about whenever I meet new people. Anyone else experience this? Is it normal?

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Based on 54 votes (45 yes)
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  • disthing

    It's just curiosity. You must have a unique look about you that peaks people's interest. I wouldn't take it to heart, just say what you are, then ask what they are back :)

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    • That's a good way to look at it v.thinking it's because I look weird!

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        Yeah people ask about mine too. Most people already have an assumption of what race I am generally. Its never correct.

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  • Holzman67

    I'm half Maltese and I get asked a bit. I don't mind, its a good conversation starter

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    • _Mehhhh_

      "Cool surname! ... is it Italian?"

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  • 53739

    that's pretty cool

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  • ahrain

    Im a 22 year old female and im German, Dutch, Brazillian, Danish, Irish, English, Native American... I get asked my ethnicity mulitple times a week. Most people think im some kind of italian/Latin mix. I think its a natural attribute for being so mixed, but I dont hear other people get asked even a small fraction of them amount I get asked.

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  • ifonlyuknew247

    I'm descended from interracial heritages as well, and this question was asked of me every single day at least one time when I was younger, especially by older people or adults, who were fascinated to see an interracial child/teenager. After age 20 or so, people chilled a little more. They still asked, and tried being subtle about it (What's your last name? Where are you from/were you born? What's your nationality? What's your background?") Sometimes I let them suffer for a second or two, but I always tell them because I think it takes a lot of courage to ask someone this question. It's true, what the very first comment said, people are just curious about your unique look. I always got, "Oh wow, well it's a beautiful mix," after I told them. That's not a bad payoff, so I don't mind at all. I'm fortunate it's never been a negative experience.

    Your post kind of surprised me because these days I find there's a lot more acceptance and the world has changed so that hardly anyone asks, ever, because so many more people are of interracial heritage. The reduction of it being an odd thing and the increase of it being normal or no big deal really warms my heart, having seen the conditions of the past, and makes me happy the world is very slowly but surely turning in a direction of acceptance.

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  • JBN

    I was born and raised in California (dude). So many people think I sound like I'm from the south like Texas. I guess I'm a little lazy with my speech. On top of that some say I sound like Sheldon on that awful show, because I am "smart". But really they are accusing me of being lazy and gay. And that is pretty much the truth.

    Don't kid yourself, when lighter skinned people ask darker skinned (or darker feature) people their ethnicity, part of it is simple curiosity and part of it is them insulting you for being such a mixed mutt. That hurts but it is the truth.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I've been accused of having a bit of an exotic look.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

    There's nothing wrong with being asked/asking someone about their ethnicity. 99% of the time they are interested in you. I occasionally get asked about my ethnicity. I was born in England, think I look totally English, totally consider myself English but I do get a few people proclaiming I'm not English. Even got told off a drunk customer once that I should go back 'home'. Pretty funny.

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    • Most of the time it is ok. But people saying things like your drunk customer did are what make me nervous! Racism seems to be getting worse in the U.S. and though I'm not claiming I exactly know what it's like to be on the receiving end... I've had enough isolated incidences to understand how absolutely ignorant and hateful people can be!

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  • Terence_the_viking

    so every minute of every day someone asks you about your ethnicity?

    woah that must cause you major head pains.

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    • I s'pose I should have said "Almost every time I meet someone new in a causal social setting, which is almost every other weekend sometimes weeknights..."?

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Woah that just makes a whole load of sense right there.

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  • Avant-Garde

    I think its partly due to curiosity. For some reason, I've always been almost sensitive and bothered when I've been asked. Almost as if I was being put on the spot or if people were trying to weed out something wrong with me. Its something I dread to be ask, but lately people don't really ask me. I know when I was a kid that I would get so pissed off if people just assume that I was a certain ethnicity and would angrily correct them. I think part of my sense of dread is because I've never really been fully comfortable with at least one of the ethnicities in me, a fact that was worsened because of my family. However, I think my reaction would depend on who it was that asked and how well I knew the person.

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    • Right, when people say "what are you?" that's what usually makes me feel insecure. I think the fact of it happening through childhood on, you develop a complex! Race is such a bogus concept- my family all would pass for "white" but not me. I don't care now because people are people, race isn't like an actual thing I believe in ( beside the HUMAN RACE) but growing up in a "diverse" city, in school pretty much people broke into cliques based on "race". I was friends with everyone and I specifically remember a Puerto Rican and Haitian friend of mine joking about white people, I knew they were joking but I was kinda like "hey! (white girl right here)" and they're like "What? You're not white". Back then I was like wait...do white people think that to? My family is white...I'm mostly European...what am I?! Where do I fit?! Now as you said, even if people are simply curious, you always have that in the back of your mind that people notice you look different and so you're always self conscious about it...always thinking "What ethnic group are they assuming I'm from, what stereotypes are they assuming about me..."

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  • KeddersPrincess

    I'm often asked about my race. I'm black but because I am light skinned I'm often assumed to be mixed white, Cuban, Puerto Rican, mixed with many races, and the most common mixed with Asian and even sometimes full Philipino.

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    • You're like me in that people's guesses are geographically across the board. I get Russian, Eastern European, Middle Eastern, Latina, Asian (mostly people think I'm part Japanese or Indian). It's so odd that we can categorize different "races" the way we do when really there are so many similarities obviously! There are a few actresses that came to mind when I read your comment, I imagine that being such a "chameleon" is beneficial in the acting or modeling world...or if you wanted to be an international spy or something ;).

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      • shuggy-chan

        Haha the op is a tiny totally spy

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        • ;)

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  • shuggy-chan

    well im a 6'3 half Asian, and I get tons out people asking me what I am

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    • Does it ever irritate you? I guess it's not so much people asking but they way the go about asking.
      Sometimes people try to guess, which can be amusing. Do you get mistaken for any ethnicity (nationality?) in particular?

      Holy eff you're tall! I'm 5'1"!

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      • shuggy-chan

        you shrimp =D

        and It sem most people guess im "some sort of oriental" hahah but im so tall it throws them off, and I just learn to expect it now

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        • Hahaha I hope they don't actually say "oriental"?! My height/body type throws people off too, though they don't directly say it. I get asked if I'm Brazilian or Puerto Rican quite often

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          • shuggy-chan

            Must be the native american

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    • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

      N'aawhhh <3

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      • shuggy-chan

        Are u "awww"in at me like a pirate =D N'aaaawwwhhhhhhh

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