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For years friends, family and co-workers assumed I get a lot of women but I don't. IIN?
I'm extremely confused because I have difficulty getting women involved with me for anything other than hook ups (sometimes).
Heh! I sometimes get the impression that people think I'm on a mission to seduce every woman in the world whereas the actuality is that I average less than one relationship a year. I rarely go beyond flirting. It sometimes makes my friendships with men difficult because they all think I'm after their intended.
Given that it's a problem for both you and I, maybe we should change our behaviour. Although I don't see why we should change because of other people's insecurity.
Maybe it is what you look and act like.
Generally, when I meet a guy that is decent looking, charismatic and has a good sense of humor and immediately attracts me, I assume that he gets a lot of women.
It's often shocking to learn what other's impressions are of you - and how completely wrong they are. A coworker (who I've worked with for years) recently told me that he once saw me as some kind of player or great womanizer - when to me I thought it was plainly obvious to everyone that I wasn't. He said he found a slip of paper in my car with a girl's name, address, and phone number. It was someone who I saw for a short time, but it wasn't like she was one of a dozen casual woman I had in my pocket like he assumed. That was actually out of the norm.
But you must think --- if someone could have such a wrong impression of you, then what of your impressions of others? Surely many of those must be wrong as well.
The same thing happens to me. Its probabally cause I dont ever go really hard after girls. But yeah people are gonna assume that alot if you are a good guy who doesnt seem worried about it. Super normal
Ya I get this a bit too. People are always shocked to hear I only ever dated once so far. I find it weird that they think I would date regularly since I'm a very unkempt-looking nerdy fellow who is also very quiet.
my boss told me once:" you must have all the girls at your're feet!"
In my mind i was like: what? i barely get any action, and he thinks i have all the girls at my feet? Where did he get that impression?
makes me think what i think of other people, and that maybe i'm dead wrong.