Is it normal or wrong to tell another guy's gal that you love her

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ive known her for 5 years, our friendship has been up and down because of my feelings for her, and she has always been very vague about her feelings for me. she recently met this guy, she loves him, i think he loves her. i want to tell her that i love her, im not afraid of ruining our friendship because it now hurts to be with her. just stupid morals are getting in the way.

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  • Scarred4life
    14 years ago

    Wrong. Don't cause trouble for either of them by being selfish.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah, you are being SO selfish. You are about to ruin what they share because YOU can't handle your feelings and didn't take the chance when you should have. Just bide ur time. They'll break up eventually probably, then once she's had some time to put herself together, swoop in and drop ur bomb.

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  • Astr0caster
    14 years ago

    Well now you have to kill your friend or just get her to dump him and confess your love and be a better man

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  • Thuban
    14 years ago

    Ya I had that same situation about 2 years ago. I decided to tell her, and we then proceeded to not speak for about a year. In the meantime, she had broken up with the guy and was then available. My advice, wait. And if the moment never ends up coming, I agree with Ollieo, that ship done set sail.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Well the horse has left the barn hasn't it? Other metaphors: missed the boat, train has left the station, too little too late ... get it?

    That said, since this is wrecking your friendship you could say something.

    Tell her you have the greatest respect for her present feelings for her new bf.; that you can, however, no longer withhold your feelings; and, that if she ever became available and was interested in pursuing a relationship with you as much more than friends, that you would be interested.

    But I think you have to accept that her "vagueness" in the past may be a pretty good indicator of her interest already.

    Oh - and listen to your "morals" - they are preventing you from doing something rude and stupid.

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