Is it normal or okay for a guy to not be able to promise?

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There's this saying that goes "a true lady doesn't demand, she thanks...a true man doesn't promise, he commits." How true is this? I wish it was like that but I can't agree completely especially being a woman. I appreciate whenever my guy does something thoughtful for me ESPECIALLY cause its rare so I extra appreciate it. But there are times when he needs to realize he can put more effort and I'm not always going to go his way so thats where the "demanding" part of me comes. I might sound demanding but what makes me not a demanding person is the fact I only do it when its necessary. In terms of a guy, is it true that I shouldn't expect my man to make every promise happen? If so, why? I wonder cause Ive heard my guy say that so many times "I can't promise you but..." "I don't like making any promises" etc. It made me feel like he wasn't doing his best. But now it makes me question if I should stop expecting him to promise me things? The way I take it when it says "he commits" is he will fail every now and then but at least he tried and thats what's most important. For ex, if he wanted to come see me and he was near my area and asked me to meet him somewhere when he could just come to my house, I should just go meet him somewhere cause at least he made it to my area and wants to see me? This recently happened to me and him and he could have easily come to my place but we were both being stubborn and didn't see each other at the end of the day. But reading that quote makes me feel a tiny bit more relieved that maybe he did do his best to come see me when I thought he wasn't putting enough effort since he didn't come to my place.

So how do you take that quote? is it true? especially the guy part...

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    "a true lady doesn't demand, she thanks...a true man doesn't promise, he commits." The fuck? This doesn't make any sense. People are human, and are therefor imperfect and subject to change. Also isn't a commitment just like a higher level promise?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thats exactly what I thought at first in terms of promise and commitment...like aren't they about the same? But then I just tried analyzing it and came to the conclusion that commitment is the guy trying his best just for her as opposed to making promises to make her feel good but at the end, he fails. In a way, it should definitely go both way: both partners shouldn't demand but thank and both partners shouldn't promise but commit. I think though, this quote is calculated around similar characteristics of men and women. Its usually the woman to be demanding and its usually the man to lack effort and keep his promises.

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