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When I look at fat guys I think about how I could never like someone over weight, not even chubby. Fat people usually fill me with disgust and anger, am I awful for this or IIN?
You're not a bad person for this. You can't control your instinctive response. It's like having a phobia. As long as you recognise that it is an extreme and somewhat unfair response (as you seem to since you posted this), then you can out-think this initial response with beautiful rationality.
Think - "They're fat. Under that fat they're just another person. Human. There's a brain in there, possibly capable of equal or far greater things than mine. We might get on brilliantly"
I probably wouldn't be attracted to an obese woman, but I don't feel disgust or anger when I see one. I wouldn't expect you to discard your personal preference when dating just to fulfil a political correct attitude society promotes. BUT I would think it wise to avoid being judgemental about their character, and ask yourself why it makes you angry?
You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone you aren't. I wouldn't assume all fat people are lazy though.
It's very normal. I'm not a shallow person but in order for me to be sexually attracted to another man genuinely they would have to be somewhat fit. I'm not saying that the person has to be perfectly thin but at the very least no more then 25 pounds overweight (in fat), at least in most cases.
However, if the man has a really good personality I can probably disregard his appearance entirely.
These feelings you have would only make you a bad person if you put them into action by taking your disgust and anger out on larger people.
I don't think you should feel angry or disgusted.
Now when fat people wear really tight clothes that really grip their rolls, or look like slobs (with their fat hanging our like raw dough), then I start to have my thoughts, but the same goes for anyone of any build.
Sometimes, when they are being "sexy", they are really being an eyesore (you know who you are) and only a small minority of people would disagree with me on that.
I'm a little ashamed of myself for sitting here and saying that I don't care much for people looking/dressing nasty but I can't help it. Sue me.
Disgust and anger are pretty strong emotions which I would reserve for child molesters, pedofiles, etc....that being said fat people are at best annoying and at worst difficult to be around, esp obese fat people. I find it hard to finish a meal in public when I see a spectacularly fat person gorging themselves somewhere else in the same restaurant. The one's who tend to cause the most caustic reactions are the one's who seem to have accepted the fact that they are grossly out of shape and overweight and expect you to have the same attitude. Those are the one's that more often then not get on my nerves. Its almost as if since they dont care about their appearance and visually so, they expect you to not care about how fat they are either or just ignore as if it doesnt exist.
I honestly dont care how fat someone else gets, I only care about my own weight, just dont expect me not to judge you almost immediately on sight as either very lazy for being so overweight and if you are female to not be attracted to you in any way, shape, or form.
I would say your not normal :/ that's kind of mean. I can understand a bit of what your thinking, but if that was the norm, the world would definately not be a better place.
I'm overweight, and I'm absolutely fine with it. The fact that people are disgusted by it doesn't bother me to tell you the truth. I think most people who are fat don't really give a shit, even if they didn't get there through laziness or genetics. I wouldn't stress too hard, we're all judgemental of someone deep down...
I too am overweight. I was in a horrible accident 5 years ago, and medications and other factors have added to my weight gain. I was 140lbs. Being heavy has totally changed peoples opinions of me, When I am still the exact same person on the inside. It angers me when you assume just cause I'm fat I am lazy and a slob. Screw you.
Some people are overweight due to health reasons and health illness's. Same with underweight people. Not everyone is lazy just because they are fat, some just can't control it
My brother is overweight, but that's due to the problems we've had to go through during life, he took up eating as some sort of stress release or something.
I know its mean but I do that to. Im not disgusted by it but I would never imagine myself dating someone overweight. I just feel like they would be lazy. :/
It's normal, but it's still not very charitable. My batchmate from another school is now in depression, and I used to make fun of her behind her back. Heck, I'm a fatso myself.