Is it normal or am i a stalker?

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I was hooking up with a guy I really really liked for about 2 weeks over 2 months ago. I felt an amazing physical connection with this guy as well as liking him alot as a person. Long story short, one night he didn't meet me, and I got drunk and kissed another guy. His friend saw me. I wasn't going out with him, but I'm pretty sure his friend told him and it must've put him off me because after that he stopped talking to me. I realise this was my own stupid, drunken mistake and I've learnt from it because I really liked him so much and I feel I've lost something which might've turned into something great. Even though I didn't sleep with this guy, I've never been so physically attracted to anyone in my life. He was a lovely person too. I haven't been able to get him out of my head, even though I only knew him for two weeks. I check his facebook many times a day and I think about him and what could've been/I could have done differently alot. Is it normal to spend so much time thinking about someone who you knew for such a short period of time and blew it with? How can I get over him?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You should probably try not to kiss someone you're not dating. Yes, that would be for the best.

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  • darcilove111
    11 years ago

    if you really like him explain to him what happened he might forgive you

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    Looking at someone's Facebook every day isn't exactly stalking. I do it when I like a guy. But it's over now, perhaps you'll find someone else, just don't ever make the same mistake again.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    It's normal. You're sad because of what could have been and clinging on to the idea.

    Personally, if I was unofficially dating a girl and she drunkenly kissed another guy (actually this happened to me accept she slept with another guy), it would hurt and I'd be jealous, but if I was really fixed on her, I'd get over it and stay close to her. You hadn't made any promises to each other right? So no promises were broken. It sounds to me like he isn't as into you as you might have thought, and the drunken kiss being a cause is a nice idea but maybe not the truth.

    Good luck!

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    It's normal that you react this way, but i can see his point of view too:
    "Imagine going steady with her, I would have to be a 24-7 watchdog to keep guys out of her pants!!!"

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  • Trismegistus
    13 years ago

    You should realize that sometimes this is a common strategy to get rid of chicks men got tired of because they are acting like psycho bitches.They get you drunk or stoned,make sure
    you start acting like that,then if what shouldn't have happened actually happens and somebody witnesses the dirty cheating deed,there is often an official witness involved,someone who's there for just that reason,he snitches on you and game over.
    You get dumped.
    I used this strategy once.Yeah,I know,I'm a dick.Give me a break.
    Or the event in itself didn't matter at all and he just found another chick who gives him better BJs during a wild frat party.Guys usually secretly despise girls who get drunk and start kissing anyone without ever going all the way with any of them.
    You just figured he was the best because he didn't come onto you too strong,like all the other guys,he just thought you were the worse because you didn't actually stick with him and went clubbing and giving booze kisses to random guys.You got no alibi,the Mel Gibson defense doesn't apply to women whoring their way to marriage.Or out of clubbing.
    Which is kind of the same thing 4 most people.
    How you can get over him you ask?Get drunk and go kissing strangers until you end up getting knocked up.Or raped.Or both.Good luck.Silly Slut.No offence.

    Anyway,IF is not a sad word.
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    • bleach_baby
      13 years ago

      You, sir, are an absolute lunatic. i think most guys just stop texting or calling a girl, not set up an elaborate scheme to make her kiss someone else in front of a friend when they are not even dating. you aren't a "dick" you just sound like some bitter guy who gets cheated on alot. and all that shit at the end of the comment, ur tapped.

      to the poster...it's been two months, he isn't coming back, all you can do is learn from your mistake. when you meet somebody else you'll forget about him.

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  • joelsmo
    13 years ago

    He's probably has no interest in dating a woman who gets drunk and starts kissing every dick in town, maybe you are unable to understand that. The majority of men don't want to date a skank. Move on, you blew your chance {maybe literally}

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