Is it normal opinions for my obscure fetish

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So I am looking for some advice or general thoughts on this matter.

I have been having some really conflicting thoughts lately about a certain fetish I have known as a "crush fetish". It has bothered me for as long as I have had it, (5 years ish). Basically the arousal from this fetish manifests in females stepping on and crushing various objects and insects, preferably bare foot. I haven't really told anyone about it but now i feel desperate for opinion and advice. My concern is the insects part. I love insects. I think they are beautiful creatures with purpose and fascinating capabilities. And I personally make it a point in my everyday life to preserve, appreciate, and respect them. I never have nor would purposefully harm an insect unless it was threatening me or a friend. (ie. highly venomous bugs). However I get EXTREMELY and uncontrollably aroused at the mere thought or mention of a female crushing one. And in the end I feel really guilty and uneasy about that arousal. Insects aren't really sentient or aware of mortality from my understanding. But i'm morally conflicted about having people crush them.

People have indirectly said that this sort of thing isn't an issue. The fetish doesn't harm me or other people, is legal, and it doesn't effect my regular sex life in any way. But I still can't help but wish I didn't have it sometimes. I managed to muster up the courage to tell my Girlfriend about it and she said it's completely fine and has no trouble talking about it or performing it for me. But I still feel insecure and worry that she, and anyone else that finds out, will think I'm horribly fucked up.

So what do you guys think? I know it's not normal but is it something that I really shouldn't worry about? Is this something I should seek help for? Or is this one of those things that I should just learn to embrace about myself?

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  • KeddersPrincess
    10 years ago

    My opinion? It doesn't bother me. I have obscure fetishes too. Most other people probably wouldn't blink an eye at it either, considering they too most likely have some kind of fetish. Fetishes (even ridiculous ones) aren't really abnormal. They may not be something that we feel comfortable talking about, but they certainly aren't abnormal. Most people have them.

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  • squirrelgirl
    9 years ago

    Bugs are not the same as people or species capable of higher thought. Been killing them my entire life, no regrets. My advice to OP is to watch and crush to their heart's content.

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  • Couman
    10 years ago

    If the mere thought of a girl crushing a bug gets you aroused, I would advise you to stick with just thinking about it.

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  • goldyxo
    10 years ago

    I'd like to clear something up-- a fetish is something that is OBLIGATORY for you to get off. Otherwise, this would be known as a kink. Unless you HAVE to see a girl stepping on something barefoot and crushing it, this is a kink, not a fetish.

    It's completely normal, though.

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    • disthing
      9 years ago

      I'd like to clear up your clearing up - a sexual fetish isn't necessarily something that's required for the fetishist to 'get off'.

      That's according to both the ICD and DSM.

      The ICD-10 F65 specifies fetishism as a "reliance on some non-living object as a stimulus for sexual arousal and sexual gratification." However, it also says: "Fetish objects vary in their importance to the individual. In some cases they simply serve to enhance sexual excitement achieved in ordinary ways." So not "obligatory" as you say.

      Similarly the DSM-IV-TR says: "This paraphilia is characterized by sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving use of non-human objects to produce or enhance sexual arousal with or in the absence of a partner." That means for some it's "obligatory", for others it merely "enhances" arousal.

      However, most people use the word 'fetish' pretty broadly and should probably transition to using the word paraphilia. It's a much safer bet because there are fewer grey areas :)

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  • Satanic_Cereal
    9 years ago

    Perhaps you could use artificial insects. To spare the live creatures. A google search for "artificial insects" or "realistic fake insects" might connect you. The problem might be finding artificial bugs that are crush-able. Rather than solid rubber or plastic material. You might have to hand-build them, out of cheap plastic.

    Then you could say, "No insects were harmed, in the making of this foot fetish"

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Not particularly normal in terms of commonality - far more people don't share this particular paraphilia than do - but not unheard of.

    I think it's good you're morally conflicted. It isn't right to indulge in a fantasy which involves the mutilation or destruction of another living thing that's incapable of granting consent. The poor little things don't deserve to meet their end crushed under foot so some guy can jerk off.

    I think it's probably best for you to keep this fantasy just a fantasy. Nothing wrong with masturbating over images or videos of the thing, as long as you don't encourage new images or videos to be created. I don't think you should encourage your girlfriend to kill things to turn you on.

    I don't think you need to seek help for it, as long as you have it under control. If it ever gets to the point where you NEED something alive being crushed in order to be aroused or climax... then it's time to talk to someone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You should hook up with the girl who posted about liking to let roly polys crawl around in her vag

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have never heard about it...huh. I can see where you would be a little morally conflicted though, for the most part I dont like things dying (I saved a tiny bug after it fell into the toilet water because I felt bad) and intentionally crushing and killing them is sad :(. I dont think it means you are crazy though.

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  • eastbeast
    10 years ago

    What they all said ^

    Also its not that uncommon, so don't worry about it.

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  • ginz
    10 years ago

    fetish is a fetish, its normal. im guessing its something to do with genes and hormones, a lot of people have it. people like crazy shit like amputee women porn etc.

    but ive heard about urs specifically its pretty common i think because there were videos going around where girls(most likely slaves) stepped on cute puppies.
    i dunno a fetish is a fetish all i know is u r NOT horribly fucked up its normal.

    sources: JustKiddingNews

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