Is it normal not to understand and enjoy banter?

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I'm in my 40s and work in an office with two other guys one older and one younger than me and a young lady in her 20s. We get on well but I struggle when the two guys banter and wind me up as I automatically take everything personally. I had a sheltered upbringing and my parents were very religious and narrowminded. Although I'm married with two kids and people say I'm a friendly guy I don't have much experience of life and feel totally out of my depth when it comes to banter. Is there anything I can do as it's making me unhappy?

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Don't take it seriously?

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    Pretty normal. For example, I neither understood nor enjoyed this post.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Some of it IS personal. They're testing your limits, seeing how willing you are to laugh at yourself, how self-aware you are. It sounds cruel but it's a bonding exercise.

    I try to get to know someone before I use it, because I don't like to upset people. But when I do know them, I'm merciless (although never cruel).

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  • yjing
    8 years ago

    sometimes people are just boring and annoy others as they have nothing to do in their life. I d just suggest you to accept yourself and maybe just tell them how you feel. If then they are strssing you anyway I would just ignore them. We do not need to be friends with our colleauges.

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  • Truth_teller
    11 years ago

    Is it just me or is that fish i smell on you? Lighten up maybe dudee, it makes people love you if you become a badass with conversation. Exadurate and just be a boss...

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    I don't like it either but I try push through it. I remember that I used to love it when I was younger, but now it makes me uncomfortable. I'm always awkward and sometimes I go in a direction that I shouldn't and then I get stressed out about it....

    I'd much rather regular conversation but all they do there is tease each other as if it's a comedic sport or sumtin.

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    bahahahahha that just makes you the perfect victim

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I don't enjoy panthers either. Nasty critters.

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    • flutterhigh
      12 years ago

      Who said anything about panties?

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