Is it normal not to tell my dad that i had a baby even though i'm 25?
Last year in April, I had my baby about a month and a half before I turned twenty-five years old. It's currently been ten months and I still haven't told my father that I had a baby, even though my mom (my parents have been divorced for 20+ years), and a few of my other relation have known because I told them. The reason why I am keeping this from my dad at the moment is because he didn't tell me that I had a half-brother from him, and I ended up finding out via his boss several years later. I guess that my father didn't know that he had a son from a previous fling until the child was five years old (I was nine at the time this boy was five);however, I was about eleven or twelve when my dad's old boss told me that I had a brother, and even though when I confronted my father over what his boss told me he was honest and told me the truth. But, knowing my father, if his boss wouldn't have said anything, he would have kept this a secret from me probably until either the day he died or until my half-brother would have showed up at his door one day out of the blue. Now, I understand that two wrongs don't make a right, but my father thinks that it's still a joke that what he did to me, not telling me that I had a younger half-brother, and still laughs about it when I've told him how much it hurt me that he didn't just tell me when he found out. Also, unrelated to this, he's lied to me and kept things from me more times than I can count, so I just feel like giving him a taste of his own medicine. Also, we're estranged since I haven't lived with him or really been around him, except for a handful of times, since I was about eleven or twelve years old.