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I do not generally talk to people when a something dramatic in my life has happened. Some people truly want to be your friend and some people just want to be nosey, so I just ignore everyone. I can never really tell someone's motive for asking me about the situation so I think I'm better off keeping it all to myself. Is this normal?
Some people are like that. I'm kinda like that myself. I don't like talking about myself, unless i'm really comfortable with it.
Well, it's best if you write it somewhere. Maybe you can write it down here on this site and get people to comment on it. It might work since you don't know the people and they'll try to help you. Take note that some people might not really comment anything nice.
It is normal, but really not the best way to get past these trials in your life. You can get much comfort many times, by sharing.
People ARE incredibly gossipy. It's sad to say, but nothing you say to somebody else can be expected to remain between the two of you. How many people have told me the line "but don't say this to anybody." Pretty much perfect strangers more often than not. I mean, if you don't want it to get out just shut the fuck up. Why tell me? I didn't need to hear this shit!
So, now that I have come with terms with how people will share what I tell them with every Tom, Dick, and Jane; I only share what I am ready to have come out. It can be very liberating and helpful to share my concerns on this and that with friends and, for the most part, I just tell myself: "Who cares if the whole world finds out?" Then, for what I really don't want to come out, I keep it to myself. It's a burden to carry but it is the logical thing to do.
You need to understand that little of it matters though. There's a lot you can share without suffering from others finding out.
my mother is life this. she thinks everyone is just a gossip trying to pry into her life. so she keeps it all bottled up inside. until she explodes at my father. poor father :(