Is it normal not to live in the world of dating and relationships?

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I'm 24 and male. I wouldn't consider myself asexual because I do find women attractive, I just don't see myself having any kind of connection with them. I don't see or understand flirting... I don't get how dates work. Someone told me that if I like a girl I should just smile at them. I don't get it. Where does that get you? I smile at everyone if our eyes meet, I don't think I'm broadcasting any signals to people... am I?

I guess I'm a loner. I haven't just sat in my room all my life, I've travelled a lot.. but always alone. I guess I'm asking how normal/possible it is to completely miss that side of life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    same dude kinda i mean i understand todays class of "relationship" but i just dont understand why they do it what is so special about it

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  • Proudfear
    13 years ago

    same

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    Thanks for the comments guys and girls!

    The last comment seems to be more about not having a partner at the moment rather than a lack of understanding of how it all works. I've never had anyone saying I should find a girlfriend and to ask a girl for her number is completely alien to me. There's a big difference between not knowing the etiquette of dating and not having a chance to put it in to practice lately (or ever due to lack of confidence).

    I don't lack confidence, I could talk to anyone but nobody to me is a potential partner. That's the world I'm not in and have never seen. When talking to a girl I am talking to another person not a 'potential mate'. The attractiveness of that girl is a separate matter to me talking to her. Hard to explain.

    tigresapunkita, I hope you find what you are looking for - I'm sure you will!

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  • tigresapunkita
    13 years ago

    I am a 24 yr old female and I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting men. I meet my ex (first and last b.f) through the internet and the relationship it ended very badly.

    I wish I could meet someone easily could be at the mall....anywhere really.

    One of my problems is that I am always hanging out with my mother haha. She even tells me that I have to go out by myself if I want to meet a guy, but lol....I have no car....I recently lost my job so I am broke, that just ruined my chances.

    In your case it is just extreme shyness. Try to make more eye contact and talk to women about anything......try to be brave and ask for their number. I have never asked for a guy's number so I am not the best person to give advice about this.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    13 years ago

    Wow, my life explained in just two paragraphs. Glad to see I'm not the only one that is like that. I'm with you bro!!!

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    Stop overthinking it and let it come naturally. Just relax.

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  • BUGABOO-666-
    13 years ago

    I'd definitely be the same exact way if I didn't meet my current girlfriend four years ago and form such a close relationship with her. I just consider myself very lucky.

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