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Met someone the other day who was completely convinced they were "just being friendly" and not a giant flirt. They believe they are just really outgoing, nice and happy people with an attitude that draws people in. I don't entirely believe it, you have to know on some level that you are doing it!
No, I don't think so. I don't like flirting to be forced or deliberate. I feel like stuff like that is better natural, and the person might not even realise that they're doing it. Some people are just like that.
I can sympathise with them. When I flirt, I'm often just making the other person feel good about themself. It seems like a nice thing to do. Lots of my flirting is innocent. However that's not to say I find the person I'm flirting with unattractive, just that I'm not propositioning them to come back to the dap cave and jettison their underthings.
Sometimes I'm just flirting because other people are good at it and it's fun. It still doesn't mean I'm after them. Occasionally, I'm interested in people and flirt with them as if it's just flirting and nothing else. Occasionally, I'm interested in people and don't flirt with them at all.
In short, you can't read anything into flirting. I'm aware that I may be different than most and that my answer should be disregarded, though.
Disregard something containing the words "jettison their underthings??!!"
Impossible and foolish to consider.
I don't think you're different than most. What you write here perfectly describes my situation as well.
Finally! I knew there must be someone else out there like me. Half the time I'm barely even thinking about sex.
Hey this has nothing to do with the post, but I just want to apologize for acting like a lunatic and an ass on the "IIN I don't need friends" story. At the time, I was a bigot in the original meaning of the word.
I'm one of those people. I'm naturally nice & sweet & polite. People always mistake that as flirting. I legitimately don't try to flirt.
It happens that you are just acting nice and the other person thinks you're flirting.
Well you did not describe what they did so we can not determine if they are or not. Some people are just nice people and everyone thinks they are flirting. In fact you can say most women are flirts since they are a lot nicer. They tend to not make a big deals about hugs. Is a girl telling another girl she looks good in a skirt flirting? I guess that means the women are going to hop in bed together. Is giving your friends a hug flirting? How do you know you are not just getting the wrong impression? Is helping someone with homework flirting? So the real question is "What do you actually consider flirting". That is like saying "My friend is an asshole". So why do you think so?
Everyone is different and some people are flirty and yeah some come off as flirty, but yeah it is possible not to know you are doing it.
I remember in highschool I always got called a flirt. I was simply being nice, yet always called a flirt.