Is it normal not to hate your mother?

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1) Stop hating. That is what is wrong. People hate but it is not "normal" to practice this feeling. Hate hurts you. Try very hard not to hate your mother. Does not matter what happened. You will be better off if you do not hate. Crying IS normal and sometimes a private cry is better!

2) Do not verbally fight. You bring yourself down to a bad place. Trying to improve communication is an honorable thing to do. Can you ask your mom to go to a communication group with you?

3) If words are hurting you, see a professional third party to get you through the pain. Churches and Communities often help people for free. They have adult and youth groups.

4) Try and forgive. This does not mean you need to forget.
You need to remember and learn. Forgetting is hiding from it. Ignoring is fear.

5) It is hard to have a pretty heart. It is easy to have an ugly heart.

Pity... All you complaining gals hating your mother instead of learning, taking positive action, and growing to be a woman with a beautiful heart.

If your mom is a real mean person then you have the opportunity to be very beautiful by overcoming the pain. Seize the chance. Be kind to yourself. Stop hating.

If she was a bad mom...you learned what not to do! Take what you have learned and make the world a better place. Be nice!
Your mom might have strayed from the good path. Please stay on the good path ladies. Do not make the same mistakes as your mom.

Some people are stuck in very horrible evil dark places. Do not get stuck there yourself. Pass through it... Use your energy to radiate the light. Your pretty heart might help your mom's heart get prettier.

People who can not face the truth are weak and living lies. Facing the truth is like looking in a a magnifying mirror.
Scary. After you look, you fix something though.

If you can master your emotions and do good for others,
your heart will be pretty. There is nothing more beautiful!

Crying is fine & sometimes crying is not fine.
You will figure it out! Too much pity for self is not so admirable. Improving self is worthy. Always do this.

It is NOT normal to hate your mother. Hate has no value in this world.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    What if you had an abusive mother and you don't want to have kids, though? You didn't learn what not to do, then.

    Sometimes communicating doesn't work. Sometimes people have to cut off communication with their mothers. It's good to get to the point where you don't hate your mother, of course, but sometimes when you're dealing with somebody who's manipulative or abusive, getting to the point where you CAN be angry and hate is progress. It's not the last step, and it's something you want to get past eventually, but you can't just decide to fix it in a second. These things take time and work.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    I love my Mom :) She always wakes up early to get all my stuff and make me breakfast and all that other stuff :) I'm a Momma's boy lol

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  • Boo!
    11 years ago

    I hate my mother I feel like she tying me down. There is so much pain she has caused me and I can't do anything about it. My mom wasn't the best mother, she has done many things that I can't ever talk about because I feel ashamed and I dont want others to pity me. I know hating isn't the right thing to do but if I pretend like I actually "love" her when I dont it feels like I'm living a lie. I feel like I need to hate her I cant just forgive her for all the things she's done because she wont ever change. She wll always be what she is, I tried to help her change and I ended up more hurt. I'm tired of the shit she has put me through and I wont show her any affection because I dont think she deserves it.

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  • Short&2thepoint
    11 years ago

    I agree with Violet. Sometimes being too kind a person can hurt you more than being hateful. Sometimes, you just have to have the negative feelings strongly enough to get them out of your life, and get them to stop inflicting pain upon you. My mother was a sick twisted bitch. And I told her so. She thought I was just a rebellious child, until I left her home and went to live with my father for a few years, who is actually physically and mentally abusive. When i came back to stay with her temporarily, the "i told you so" look she gave me was countered with a verbal "It was still better than living with you" and a bitter laugh Fortunately, after I told her how evil she had been, she worked on being a better person. I say good luck to you and your positivity though, but it's just not for some people. :)

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I could never hate my mother. But I have a hard time hating in general. I dislike some of her choices. And I'm confused by her actions. I want to blame her sometimes, but I know that won't do me any good. She only did what she thought was best. I can't fault her for that. At least she tried.

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  • o_0
    11 years ago

    nice post.... a kind one .... i wish you had commented it on my post (is it normal that i dont like my mom).... i wonder no comments yet......

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    i like this post

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