Is it normal not to grieve/feel sad when a loved one dies?

I lost my grandmother oddly enough also in 2010. We were really close so I had imagined that I would be a mess. I cried when it first happen, but I never got anywhere near as upset as I expected to. I'm still half expecting it to him me anytime now. I guess some people take death better than others. I'm really bad at handling it when living people leave me, I guess because of the rejection aspect. With death, I just know they lived a good life and feel honored to have known them.

I haven't yet cried for the loss of a loved one, friend or a pet or anything. I would always feel sad, and well everyone else around me would just be bawling their eyes out. Sometimes I'd actually try to cry.

However, smaller things have happened in my life, that have affected me personally, like a breaking up with someone or being bullied or something and those things have made me cry. This makes me feel incredibly guilty for not crying at the end of somebody's life..... and crying for something that is so short-term in comparison.

Well, I think it is pretty lame that you got angry at the others at her funeral getting hysterical. They lost a loved one and they are grieving. You are angry about what is a normal and healthy human emotion being expressed in the appropriate environment.

"I feel like grieving and pining for a dead relative for years on end is kind of pathetic unless they are an immediate family member."

My grandmother died back in '03. She practically raised me and I notice the fact that she isn't in my life on a regular basis. If she was in my life, I know that it would have gone considerably differently because she was that close to me, as a family member. You can call me pathetic if you wish, but just because they are not an immediate family members doesn't, by default, make them any less family than an immediate family member.

I think you are being awfully selfish. Throughout the entirety of the post, you describe your feelings as if they are the only ones that matter and maybe to YOU they matter, but you have to look outside your own narrow scope and understand that some people see and feel things differently and who your grandmother was to you may be completely different from who she was to others.

But this is normal. You're right, if someone is a non-immediate family member they are more likely to have a non-immediate impact on your life. Like I said, people feel things differently... I just don't find it appropriate that you would call them pathetic considering your lack of empathy or ability to even see beyond your view might win you that branding from other individuals.

I'm usually your typical depressed, crying person when someone dies. My Dad and mother-in-law died the same day exactly a year apart. The heartache from one death right after another was terrible and felt like it would never end. Watching my Mom go through losing my Dad and my husband losing his Mom and lost his Dad when I was 2, is the hardest part and still is 4 years later. Just a couple weeks ago I found out one of my ooooold friends older brother died. I haven't seen or talked to her in 9 years. I cried and cried. I even got sent home from work on breavement because I couldn't stop. Then just a week ago a friend and supervisor at my job passed away. I only knew here for 9 months, but felt like I knew here before I was born. I'm only 25 and she was 48, but she felt like my best friend. When we all found out at work, everyone was crying. It was a weird day at work. I was the only one who didn't cry. I felt fine. I felt like that girl on Seinfeld who cries about everything, like her hot dog falling on the ground. But when her grandma dies, she says, "Huh" and she's fine.
It' weird. I don't know if I'm just tired of crying for going on 5 years straight or if the friendship of this last friend has changed me.

I won't grieve for someone who died peacefully and happily. but for some one who died when they shouldn't have..I break apart completely when that happens. Of course, that is only as long as that person wasn't trying to harm me in any way

Going numb is the way some people deal with things like that.

You're dead inside

I lost my grandmother two years ago. I was at a birthday party and I had my mobile switched off because I wanted to fully enjoy. The following morning a relative of mine who was also there came and hugged me then told me that my grandmother just died. I felt nothing. I just called a friend and told him to come pick me because my grandmother had just died and I have to get home. I arrived there and saw all family members with their sad faces and my cousins saying that it was really sad that she passed away. But in a way I was happy because she was living with my aunt who was not treating her as she deserved and I just thought that it was good that she has no longer to endure those ill-treatment. I didn't shed a tear and even now when i think about it I still feel nothing about her death.

I lost my grandmother blah blah blah. Jeez what the fuck is it with trying to get attention on yourselves. Your normal