Is it normal not to cry or express emotion when it comes to death?

It is against my morals but it seems I can't fight that if a close relative of mine were to die I wouldn't show emotion, I'd just blank it out. I think that emotion lets others know you are human but I can't express sorrow. One family member has experienced some illness today and I heard over the phone that it was serious. Assuming it was death (not really) I got mad that a young relative would die with so much to live for, on top of that we haven't had the closest relationship (just little to no socializing which is normal between most dudes) but I still care about him a lot in a strong brotherly sense, he is my brother. Maybe it is just because I've experienced enough sorrow and pain for a 20 year old that my mind won't let anything else get to me.

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  • HarringtonMD

    I wouldnt say its normal or not everyone is different and feels greif in their own way. Just go with how you feel and what your comfortable doing.

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  • kateh

    I cannot relate I cried for months when my cat died I still burst sometimes....

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  • kawasakirider

    I agree with Louie that everyone deals with it in their own way. People jokingly call me emotionless because I don't show much positive or negative emotion. I typically stay composed during times when other people are angry, upset, or happy. Maybe it's just part of our personalities to respond that way.

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  • Louie

    Everyone deals with it in their own way, i too blank out after the fact, however i do it on purpose so i cant feel the pain as badly, but that doesnt seem to help much, plus i cant physically cry cuz my adams apple clogs my throat when im about to and then i cant breath

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  • Ryuhei

    I know how it is, when people close to me die I don't cry....however if one of my pets die I cry and cry and cry!

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  • i found out my gran just died a couple days ago and i was close to her but im not showing im sad nor do i feel sad about it i know i should be sad and she deserves for people to be showing grief or maybe feeling it but not showing it but even when im thinking this i dont feel sad for not feeling sad about her death its fucked up but still.

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  • PilgrimJim

    know how you feel. Kind of like you want to let go and cry and be upset because you feel that thats the 'normal' thing to do but just can't. Perhaps its just the way you are. I'm like that too.

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  • nocharge

    It's normal, but it isn't healthy. Grief is difficult to deal with. Many of us choose to ignore it but it comes out one way or another. It often comes out in bitterness or anger. We place a high value on strength but then there's nowhere to turn when we're feeling pain.

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  • jasonapple

    I wasn't sad when my Granddad died. I hardly knew him so maybe that's why.

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