Is it normal not to be valued at all by the people you value the most?

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It's my birthday. An unhappy birthday to me. A lot of people greet me. You know banks, companies, places where I am the client. Or people who are not close to me on facebook.

However...My family doesn't have the time to be with me on my birthday. None of my ex boyfriends celebrated my birthday. That hurts the most. Especially this last guy. He won't say happy birthday cause I know he is embarassed to be with me because of his high scoiety friends or something.

Whenever I don't care about a guy they seem to care more. But the guys I really love...I really care about...value...don't value me at all. I feel like used and thrown into thrash.

I know I am valueable I know that. I do love myself. But like everyone else I also need to feel valued by people I care about.

What do I have to do be valued especially by men? What do I need to do to be important enough to be greeted on my birthday? Please anyone who knows what's the secret of being loved and valued share with me. Because this not being valued really effects my whole mood.

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  • greenhillzone
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way. When Im not interested in someone in the least bit they seem to flock to me. But as soon as i start to open up and show the any type of affection they leave, or ignore me. It happens I guess...but dont let silly people get you down. Only go for people that love you for you.

    happy birthday

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  • timebobbu
    13 years ago

    np, im sure a dying person would find your transplanted organs valuable.

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  • xXAnnaXx
    13 years ago

    When your not valued by anyone for years the world becomes alot clearer through a new perspective.

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  • mayadukkha
    13 years ago

    Sounds like ur problem is u don't EXPECT these things for yourself. EXPECT to find a guy that values you. U say u love yourself? Love yourself enough to accept nothing less than what u really want.

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  • Sotchi
    13 years ago

    Def need new people in your life. Also, I find that when I feel that 'everyone' is treating me a certain way, there is usually something about myself that needs to be changed. Like, why is it that I keep seeking these people out? Why do i let people treat me this way? That sort of thing...

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way. The guy's I truly like, don't return the same feelings, but when I don't want them, they seem to care so much. It's normal to feel unvalued.

    But by them not caring about you the way you care for them, shows that they're the wrong people you should value. And if they can't see that you're just as meaningful as you think they are, then they're not worth it. You should find new and better people to value.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    ppl lower than your league.

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