Is it normal not to be bothered when a partner is unfaithful?

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I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on twice. The first time I was annoyed for a few minutes then got over it. The second time I wasn't bothered at all except for being unimpressed by the lass's double standards (she having got me to swear fidelity to her). The reason I was barely bothered either time is that sexual fidelity just doesn't strike me as being remotely important and I'm only faithful myself because I know other people consider it a big deal. As long as my partner remembers where home is, that's all I ask. Is this even slightly normal? And what is the gender breakdown of people who do feel like me on this one?

I'm like this and I'm male 13
I'm like this and I'm female 12
I'm like this and my gender is complicated 1
I'm not like this but believe it's normal 8
I'm not like this and don't think it's normal 50
I'm not like this and don't believe it's possible, you liar! 12
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  • a215
    13 years ago

    dudes will be dudes and look. it nature. i look at good looking peole too when i see em. but id never ever do anything with anyone else. i

    love my boyfriend. i trust him, i respect him, as he does for me. the key is trust and easy going. dont give a reason to cheat and they wont.

    and if they do their out the door. not putting my health at risk.

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  • lamartin
    13 years ago

    U shouldn't forgive cheating even if it was only for sex, u should ask ur partner does she thinks about u while she is with another person, and how she will act if u cheat..,
    U should stop her coz she will cheat for the third time. Maybe she is cheating coz she wants u to be jealous..,

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  • prolovegirl
    13 years ago

    When a person is calm about their partner being unfaithful, I believe that they are the normal ones and the jealous ones are abnormal. Jealousy arises only from possessiveness, not from love.

    If you truly love someone, then it's unconditional, in other words, you go right on loving them no matter what they do. You love them whether they're in your arms or in someone else's.

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    • sweetz90
      13 years ago

      In other words...as long as u love someone it's ok for them to take advantage of u...it's ok that you've abused/cheated/disrespected me because I love you so I'll put up with all your shit like an idiot...
      Love is not enough...it needs to be accompanied by respect...and disrespect should never be tolerated...
      Keep it up and she'll have you raising some other mans kid

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Bin her!
    She's only using you for security while she's out there looking for someone better. I don't think you can really love her if you don't really care about her cheating. You should be out looking for someone better too!

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  • lady6sky
    12 years ago

    I wonder what is the reason you are with this person. I guess companionship. One that case, a puppy will do the job.
    No seriously, dont settle for less than u deserve.
    Good luck!

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  • Flowers
    12 years ago

    One question.

    Do you love her?

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  • DiscoDuck
    12 years ago

    I feel ya...I could care less who/what she does, as long as my cloths are washed and dinner is cooked. Not that I would be mad or upset, I just would not care.

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  • TaurusChick
    12 years ago

    Its easier said thatn done. "if my man cheats im gonna kick him out"...Ive heard that so many times before. But what happens when your actually faced with the sitations and your man who youve given all your life for goes and does something like this? do you up up and away? only you can decided this. But life is much more comlicated than this especially if you have kids etc. Cheating is unacceptable thats for sure. But sometimes forgiveness has to be shown. My partner has never cheated on me and least I dont think he has and Im not sure how i would react if he did tell me he had cheated. Grrrr!!!! they do say love conqurs all so maybe thats your answer. x

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  • lovebuzz1025
    13 years ago

    Im not at all like this myself. However, if it works for you and you dont mind thats ok. I however would just about die at the thought of my boyfriend even wanting another girl. ever.

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    • yourfuckinghero
      13 years ago

      I don't understand why women are so scared of unleashed sexual desire. But I do have a question. This is to all women on the thread. Are you more threatened by the emotional connection or the sexual connection?

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  • xXAnnaXx
    13 years ago

    Well I normally find out about a partner cheating right before they brake up lol. It's just gotten to the point where having a stable relationship with men just isnt possible.

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  • Malice27
    13 years ago

    I'm in a open relationship and feel the same way you do, which is why my partner and I made the decision to follow the road of a open relationship it just works for us.

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    • yourfuckinghero
      13 years ago

      I think this is actually how the majority of relationships wil be within 50 years.

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