Is it normal no one seems to want to help?

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Ok so its a long story but my sister-in-law (before I married my hubby)stole alot of money off of him we had proof and all but he didn't go to the cops. She has stolen from other family members but no one had proof even tho we know it was her. She has a drug problem and refuses to get help and her husband don't care he seems to just want to hide it from his family and my husbands family seem to act like nothing is wrong. I am just about ready to get a restraining order so she cant come around my kids since she always stops by to see my mother in law who lives with us. She also owes a drug dealer alot of money and I'm worried about him coming here after her to pay back. I want her to get help but I have to protect my kids first. Is it normal that no one seems to have the balls to do anything? Is there anything I can do?

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    Obviously your husband and his family are trying to candy coat the problem. Have you spoken openly with the family about your concerns?

    I would take priority on the safely of your children and yourself. Tell your husband that it's her or you and your children. It's time for him to bite the bullet.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I did talk to them about it and they said she wouldn't be coming around anymore that I have nothing to worry about 3 days later my mother in law came out wit she lives here to she should be allowed to have her daughter over and next thing I knew she was at the door. I told them if she comes over again Ill move with the kids which hubby says he will fallow but he is taking over rent on his parents house since his father died and has been keeping a roof over his moms head. Its a totally messed up thing but they keep saying i have nothing to worry about she wont be around days later shes over again. This has been going on for months now.

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  • MissClaire
    11 years ago

    When you see crazy.... Run the other way - you can chose whether to participate or not

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  • Jenna5960
    11 years ago

    Unfortunately you can tell them what they are refusing to see until you are blue in the face but if they don't believe it, it won't matter. You could try talking to her and telling her she needs help or asking her not to come around anymore. If that fails get the restraining order. Mother in laws are a pain but being a Mom yourself, could you imagine if that was your child? Try to look a things from her perspective. If the family isn't willing to help her, offer to drive your mother in law to a coffee shop for a meeting with your daughter or take them both out to lunch. I know probably don't want to be seen with a drug addict but at least she won't be near your kids and again, you can catch more flies with honey. Remember the drugs are making her steal and act this way.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yep everyone does it

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